Joylight 29 – Why should I have a coach?

Greetings from Joylight!

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Why do I need a coach?

I have great friends who can give me advice and a loving family who is supportive of what I do.

Your friend is your playmate. You do crazy things with them. You share secrets. You gossip. You compliment each other. You might reprimand each other too.

Your coach is none of the above.

He/she is a trained practitioner whose only interest is to facilitate you to achieve your desired outcomes and to guide your growth, who you become as a result of your goal.

He/she is in your life for a specific, goal directed purpose.


Hedman (2001) commented after drawing similarities between Carl Rogers’ humanistic, person-centered approach and literature on the essence of executive coaching that

“it should be obvious that Rogerian principles are central to the success of an executive coaching program.”


Having a coach in your life gives you a powerful platform to SKY ROCKET your own performance.

Don’t believe? Read on.


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1. You are AWESOME!

Your coach has an optimistic view of you. He/she does not bring in his/her opinion of you into your interaction. He/she believes in your capacity to utilize your experiences and resources to advance and grow.

He comes from the basis that given the right environment you will shine naturally. We all have a self-actualizing tendency that makes growth possible. (Dianne, 2006)

Cain (2002) describes the concept of a person as self actualizing “the foundation premise on which humanistic therapies are built.’

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2. May the Force be with You

We all have a tendency to move towards self actualization. (Combs, 1999; Maslow, 1970; Roger, 1951, 1959)

You have an innate desire to reach your fullest capacity. (Rogers, 1951) With that, your coach can create a contextual climate that supports and nurtures you to grow into your potential! (Dianne, 2006)

Being the expert in the process of coaching, your coach can facilitate you to mould the content of your experience into your desired outcome.

“Their faith in the client’s potential ….. act in ways that free clients to find their own directions, solve their own problems, and evolve in ways that are congruent to them.” (Cain, 2002)


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3. Your Sidekick

Your coach is the glue that makes everything sticks together. He/she works with you because he/she believes in your inherent capability of positive growth.

He/she explores with you your own awareness of how you experience yourself, your situation, what it means, and where you want to go with it. (Dianne, 2006)

It’s all about YOU.

He/she honours your direction, where you want to go, what you want to do. (Combs, 1989; Elliot & Greenberg & Paivio, 1997)

This is a collaborative relationship where your sidekick taps into your own sense of unfolding growth and potential. (Dianne, 2006) He/she will guide you to construct meaningful choices and actions for your desired outcome.Β  Kick ass or what? πŸ™‚


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4. Here for You

Your coach provides you with an optimal climate where your capacity for growth can be determined. This is someone who is empathetic to your experiences and seeks actively to listen to your full reality without adding, substracting, or changing information. (Dianne, 2006)

He/she allows you to be more aware of your construction of reality while demonstrating unconditional positive regard for you. (Rogers, 1951, 1975). He/she maintains an attitude of refraining from judgement (Roger, 1959), accepts and values the person that you are.

I believe everyone needs someone like that in their life don’t you think?

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5. Whole again

  • Have you ever felt a little empty inside?
  • Have you ever felt lonely in a crowd?

Ironically in today’s world where we are so ‘connected’ thanks to technological tools, I think we have never been lonelier as individuals. Also with all our daily tasks and obligations towards work, family and friends, feeling overwhelmed, flustered and drained out is probably the real reality.

Coming back to feeling whole can seem like a luxury. But it is not and it is fundamental to a sense of well being.

When we are functionally at our best, we generally describe this state of feeling “whole,”, “integrated,’ or in “flow” (Csikszentmihalyi, 1990)

Having a coach allows you to have that in your life on a regular basis. His/her empathetic presence in your life and his/her emphasis of viewing you as a dynamic whole is a gentle reminder for you to come back to yourself.


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6. Private 007

Your coach is no ordinary person. He/she is a trained professional in his/her field of human development and human potential. He/she comes equipped with skills, knowledge, abilities and tools to propel you in the direction you want to go.

He/she knows all about the secret processes and possess a powerful arsenal that is yours to utilize to get what you want. He/she has excellent observational skills to monitor your progress.

He/she knows what you say and not saying. He/she is adept to think on his/her feet to help you to navigate the rocky waters to your destination.

He/she has only one mission.

And that mission is your goal.

Your own private 007 activated.

“… the use of the best available knowledge integrated with the practitioner’s expertise in service of the client’s experience and context.” (Sackett et al., 1996)

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7. Lighthouse

Lighthouses are life savers. They warn you of dangers and guide you to safe waters if you follow the advice. Your coach is your lighthouse. He/she reinforces your sense of being a holistic individual capable of change, making choices with accompanying responsibility. (Cain, 2002)

Your coach shines a light to emphasize on the choice you are choosing, the actions to make it possible and the meaning you are prescribing to the choice.

That is helpful isn’t it? To gain confidence and clarity to ward off the doubts that is ever so often lurking in the corners, waiting to spring and attack when your guard is down.

“In asking our clients to make clear and conscious choices, we ask them to become active architects of their growth. By holding them accountable for those choices, we underscore the responsibility that comes with choice.”

– Dianne, 2006


How can I make full use of having a coach?

Something new to think about? πŸ™‚


Thanks for reading.

Your Transformational Coach,

Joy Leng


‘Empowering heart-centered women since 2005’

β€œI met Joy and was immediately struck by her vibrant energy.

She is a compassionate person with a quick mind, and I found her coaching to be skillful and intuitive.

If you ever need coaching, I would recommend you see her: not only will she help sort you out, she will be your cheerleader every step of the way!”
– Rimi Yoshida


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