E-motion The Movie

If your subconscious mind
is 1000 times more powerful
than the conscious mind,
what controls it?

I thoroughly enjoyed watching E-motion. Apparently, there is a 2014 version. And this is a summary description on IMDb,

E-Motion is a factual documentary that explores how human emotions affect the physiology of the human body and how once negative emotions are replaced with positive emotions bona fide physical changes occur. A team of emotion experts from around the world share their wisdom and negative emotion clearing methods to show humanity the path to health and enlightenment.

The amazing accolades collected by the 2014 version is impressive.

  • Official Selection ILLUMINATE Film Festival 2014
  • Official Selection AWARENESS Cinema Festival 2014
  • Winner Golden Award WORLD FILM AWARDS 2014
  • Official Selection ASHEVILLE Film Festival 2014
  • Official Selection MONARCH Film Festival 2014

It has been inspiring and thought-provoking for me. It is such a joy to share the precious gems in it with you. I know you are busy so here you have it in a easy to read format. Do read it mindfully! ๐Ÿ™‚

Featuring

HIGHLIGHTS

  • When we don’t work through our stuff, it manifests as diseases.
  • Every dis-ease that we experience are emotions, memories that are buried in our subconscious, that’s been triggered.
  • All organisms in nature are designed for short term stress, except for humans. We have the capacity to recall memories for a long time and stressing our system all over again when we do that.
  • The protective mechanism in our mind suppress these memories and feelings, not just in our minds, but also in our bodies. The evidence is muscular tension.
  • The human body is really nothing but energy zipping around in the speed of light.
  • Emotions means energy in motion. It’s our thoughts that create our emotions. And our emotions create our behavior.
  • When you hear people telling the same story over and over again, they are really suffering in their story.
  • We have been taught to resist the things that don’t feel good, instead of feeling the things that don’t feel good.
  • We look outside for answers. But the answers are inside because our feelings are inside of us.
  • 9% of our energy is used to suppress energy from our past.
  • Your biology is your biography.
  • Symptoms are the body crying out, telling us that there is something wrong there.
  • We are not made wrong. We are not broken. We are not missing anything.
  • If we allow the emotions to last for hours or days, it’s called the mood. If we keep allowing the same emotions to last for weeks or months, it’s called the temperament. If we keep at it for months or years, its called a personality trait.
  • So often people think that they have forgiven somebody, but they haven’t. Because their bodies are expressing the unforgiveness.
  • Being willing to be vulnerable and feeling again, is the first step to healing and finding our joy.
  • The placebo effect is proving that the mind can heal itself, despite of the sugar pill or the fake operation.
  • The subconscious mind acts as a broadcasting signal.
  • True transformations comes when we break free from the chains of the emotional addiction. The side effect of true transformation is called joy.
  • The emotional patterns we carry in our subconscious mind influence our relationship with money, and our relationship with each other.
  • The subconscious is a holographic archive of your existence, of every moment of your life.
  • The same emotions that is going on outside of you is also going on, inside of you. The blood is pumping these chemicals; of frustration, of jealousy, and of anxiety.
  • Our cells have these protein receptors site that binds these molecules of emotions. The amazing thing about these receptors, is that it is the same receptors that binds heroine. So guess what? We are addicted to our emotions.
  • We can take one energy of any type, and transform it into another energy.
  • The Ho’Oponopono Process:
    1 – I am sorry.
    2- Please forgive me.
    3 – Thank you.
    4- I love you.
  • If I wasn’t afraid, I would …
  • It is not fear that keeps us trapped. It is hiding from fear.
  • The biggest cloud to our perception is fear.
  • We move from the selfish state, which is driven by hormones and stress, to the selfless state, where we really want to contribute, and to make a difference.

It will be a nicer experience for you to watch the actual movie, so if you like, you can check out E-motion documentary here or the 2014 version in IMdb.

This movie has been heartening for me, given that I am also starting to place more emphasis in the healing aspect of my work as well.

As a newly certified Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) facilitator who can use the AFT process to help clients clear blocked feelings, emotions and memories from the past, you can imagine how in sync I felt with the movie.

Let’s all do the work. Allow yourself to feel your emotions again.

QUICK EXERCISE

For the next 7 days, for at least once a day, pause for a moment and ask yourself.

1. How do I feel right now? (One word, feeling word)

2. What do I need right now? What can I give to myself right now?

3. If you can, record/journal it.

4. Review your journal at the end of the week.
It will be interesting to see what new insights you get at the end of it.

5. Share your insights with me with you like! ๐Ÿ™‚

6. Share this post with someone else and encourage them to do the exercise.

If you struggle to identify your feelings, trust me, it is very normal. And you can use the emotion wheel to help you. So hey, be patient and be kind to yourself in the process. ๐Ÿ™‚

Let the healing begin.

FREE RESOURCES

As starters, here are some free resources.

Firstly, go to www.shaktionfire.com where there are many complimentary healing and empowering tools ready for your easy download. ALL episodes come with at least ONE free gift. ๐Ÿ™‚

I especially recommend these episodes –

  1. Emotion Body Code with Rimi Yoshida
  2. Ayurveda with Dr Jyoti
  3. EFT Tapping with Brad Yates
  4. Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT)

Lots of good stuff there for you to check out.

OR

  • here is a quick link for you to download a
    free audio
    that walks you through the 12 Steps of Aroma Freedom Technique that you can do on yourself and
  • a Negative Thought Plots exercise based on Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). After all, as was mentioned in E-motion movie, it is our thoughts that causes our emotions.

Whatever it is, start small,
do something.

Download the free AFT audio here.

*** If you would like to book for a coaching / counseling / Aroma Freedom Technique session with me, here is the link.

Namaste.

Story SMASHer,

Joy

~ Nurturing Resilience, Vitality and Self-love in Women ~

What can Narrative Therapy do for me?

We have all heard of the rather controversial hypnotherapy, and perhaps even the very successful cognitive behavior therapy. Even arts and movement therapy.

But narrative therapy?

What could that be?

Therapy revolving around stories?

If that was your thought process, you are absolutely right on the mark! ๐Ÿ™‚ Narrative Therapy was developed during the 1970s and 1980s, by Australian social worker Michael White and David Epston of New Zealand.

According to Alice Morganโ€™s influential and highly popular text,ย What is narrative therapy? An easy-to-read introduction,ย Narrative Therapy can be about one of the following:

  • Particular ways of understanding people’s identities.
  • Certain ways of understanding problems and their effects on people’s lives.
  • Particular ways of talking with people about their lives and problems they may be experiencing, or
  • Particular ways of understanding therapeutic relationships and the ethics or politics of therapy.

The goal of narrative therapy Narrative Therapy is to be a

respectful, non-blaming approach

to counselling and community work, which centres

people as the experts in their own lives.

PRINCIPLES AND ASSUMPTIONS

1. EXTERNALIZATION

“In narrative treatment, problems are considered to be outside forces
that enter people’s lives and rewrite the basic text of who they are. ”

– Paquin, 2009:92

The beauty of externalization is that

  • it creates space for people to be able to explore new and different perspective on the issue.
  • Without the ‘blame’ conversation, it helps to ease the conflict in interpersonal relationships, in families and in the communities.
  • it avoids the problem of clients personalizing the problem, creating serious disempowering self identities and self esteem.
  • it enables a real conversation ABOUT the problem, rather than from a crippling ‘I’ perspective.

2. MULTI-STORIED LIVES

Stories are how we relate to one another, and how we create meaning for our lives. It is rich with information of the wide and varied lived experiences of our lives.

Just like we can define our main life story revolving around the fact that we were given up by our parents and adopted and therefore, a worthless individual. We can also frame our dominant story as one who rose from rags to riches, and hence a determined and successful individual .

Micheal White and David Epston (1990) explored the idea of a multi-storied version of life. That enables flexibility in the interpretations of what a person might be and defied a singular definition of a person.

3. YOU ARE THE EXPERT OF YOUR LIFE

Your narrative therapist/coach will approach your sessions with the belief that

you are the expert of your life.

Not them.

You are already skillful and competent in resolving your issues.

You inherently possess the necessary values, beliefs, skills, knowledge and abilities to manage your challenges. Your narrative therapist/coach is a non-judgmental collaborator who helps you address the problem, and to co-author a more nurturing story.

Narrative Therapy guides a person to

  • Identify their values,
  • Identify the skills, knowledge and abilities (unique qualities) that they have displayed in the past or current when undergoing hardship
  • Investigate the history of the unique qualities
  • Challenge the current dominant discourse (problem story) that is destructive
  • Co-author a more nurturing discourse to replace the problem story.

There is so much power and liberation from re-writing a disempowering stories. You will see how I rewrote my story and my sense of identity in my autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti. The title of the book says it all. ๐Ÿ™‚

I have also experienced the power of re-authoring using Narrative Therapy and many other modalities. But

the commitment to stay
the course is vital.

Re-authoring your story also means that first and foremost, we need to discover what is the dominant story that you have been living with. While it is very apparent for some people, it is not so for others.

It is so deeply ingrained in the unconscious mind, some people have absolutely no clue.

It doesn’t matter which category you belong to,

what matters is that you begin.

That is why I created the Story SMASH!er Coaching Program that using Narrative Therapy, Aroma Freedom Technique, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, mindfulness and a whole lot of other good stuff to give you an all-rounded support in this exciting re-authoring journey. It will radically transform your life.

If you are feeling something inside, that is prompting you to experiment with Narrative Therapy, then

grab the free
Life Story Plot exercise.

It will give you a first hand taste of how NT can powerfully help you to wear a more empowering lens in life, and to reset how you feel about yourself.

Remember,

you are the light.
Seek it from within.

Be well dear one, please take a look at the Story SMASH!er Program or even the 14 Days Aroma Freedom Technique Challenge, if you want to do inner work together with pure essentials oil.

And of course, I’m here for you for coaching/therapy as always.

Be kind to yourself.

Grab your free Life Story Plot exercise here.

*** If you would like to book for a coaching / counseling / Aroma Freedom Technique session with me, here is the link.

Namaste.

Story SMASHer,

Joy

~ Nurturing Resilience, Vitality and Self-love in Women ~

 

 

Are You Depressed?

In the U.S alone, about 15 million people suffer from depression annually. Although majority are women,

almost two-thirds do not seek help.

  • Are you among the two-thirds?
  • Are you wondering if you are depressed?
  • How do you know if you are depressed?

Given the scary statistics on women, you can understand why I feel the need to do a post on depression and women.

WOMEN AND DEPRESSION

Women are twice as likely to develop clinical depression as men. Almost up to one in four women is likely to have at least one episode of major depression at some point in life.

Meaning that

between you and three of your close girlfriends, one of you is going to have a major depression episode at some point.

Depression is common, depression is real and no it doesn’t just happen to ‘other people.’

Depression can happen to anyone, including you and me.

So then, what exactly is depression?

WHAT IS DEPRESSION?

According to Webmd,

clinical depression is a serious and pervasive mood disorder.

It causes feelings of sadness, hopelessness, helplessness, and worthlessness.

Depression can be mild to moderate with symptoms of apathy, little appetite, difficulty sleeping, low self-esteem, and low-grade fatigue. Or it can be more severe.

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS?

In women, symptoms of depression include:

  • Persistent sadness, anxiety, or a sense of ’emptiness’
  • Little or no interest or pleasure in activities, including sex
  • Restlessness, irritability, or excessive crying
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, pessimism
  • Sleeping too much or tooย  little, middle of the night wakings
  • Loss of appetite &/ weight loss or overeating & weight gain
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, feeling ‘sluggish’
  • Contemplation of death or suicide, or suicide attempts
  • Trouble concentrating, remembering or making decisions
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain

WHY DO WOMEN GET DEPRESSION MORE OFTEN THAN MEN?

  1. BIOLOGICAL/PHYSICAL/HORMONAL

I. Women’s Hormonal Fluctuations

The fluctuations of hormones level throughout a woman’s life have been believed to be a major factor. Hormones changes are most evident during significant periods in a woman’s life.

  • Premenstrual stress can also cause depression, anxiety and mood swings one week before menstruation.
  • Pregnancy, infertility, miscarriage, unwanted pregnancy
  • Postpartum depression
  • Perimenopause and menopause

II. Health Challenges

  • Chronic illness
  • Injury
  • Disability
  • Dieting
  • Quitting vices/addictions (e.g. alcohol, drugs, smoking)
  • Medication side effects (E.g. birth control medication, hormone replacement therapy.)

2. PSYCHOLOGICAL

I. Feelings

Women are more likely to ruminate when they are depressed. We cry to relieve our emotional tension, have negative inner dialogues and confide in friends about our depression.

The thing is,

rumination reinforces depression
and can make it worse.

II. Environmental stressors

Stress from work, school or at home can affect women more than men. Studies have shown that women are more likely to develop depression from stress, as compared to men.

Also, the female physiological response
to stress is to produce
MORE stress hormones.

The female sex hormone progesterone does not turn off the stress hormone system the way it does in men.

III. Body Image Issues

Ah, this is the bomb for women. And often, it already starts in puberty. Not only does a young girl experiences the challenges and confusion that comes with puberty, she would have already been exposed toย the implicit and explicit expectations of society about women, byย  observing her environment and the female figures in her life. And of course,

the impossible perfect body.

3. SOCIAL

Social factors, lifestyle choices, relationships and coping skills can become potential breeding grounds for depression as well.

  • Marital or love relationships, balancing the demands of romance, home life and career.
  • Family duties, such as caring for the spouse, the young and the aging.
  • Work challenges or discrimination at work such as skipped for a promotion or even retrenchment.
  • Death and sickness of loved ones.

4. OTHER FACTORS

Factors that can increase the chance of depression in women.

  • Genetic
  • Interpersonal
  • Psychological or personality characteristics
  • Being a single parent
  • Family history of mood disorders
  • History of mood disorders in early reproductive years
  • Loss of a parent before age 10
  • Loss of social support system or the threat of such a loss
  • Ongoing psychological and social stress
  • Physical or sexual abuse

HOW TO COPE WITH DEPRESSION

As you can see, depression is common for women,

you are not alone.

While it is challenging to be enthusiastic about resolving your depression issue while in depression, you can start with baby steps.

Here are some suggestions on what you can do to slowly move yourself out of the black vacuum that you are feeling.

I will keep this short because I would like to do a separate post on techniques to cope with depression.

  • Find a friend who can be an open and non-judgemental listener for you.

    If there is none, there are always counselors and therapists near you whom you can seek help from.

  • Physical exercise

    Be it a slow walk by the park or a vigorous kick boxing session, exercise releases endorphins, that can make you feel good and better about yourself.

  • Quality sleep

    Have at least 6-8 of sleep. Do not shortchange yourself on quality sleep that can help you to rest, repair and rejuvenate.

  • Meditate

    Make time for stillness to centered yourself back to your core again. Breath works is great too. My favorite tool is Insight App.

  • Gratitude

    Just for two minutes every night, list down the blessings that still abounds in your life. Breath and expand the sensation of gratitude in your heart.

  • Hydration

    About 60% of the human body is water. Make sure you drink enough water everyday to stay hydrated and to minimize disruptions in the bodily functions/processes. Avoid or minimize alcohol or dehydrating fluids like coffee.

  • Spiritual guidance

    Whatever is your spiritual or religious beliefs, seek constant inspiration and draw strength from it. There must be a reason why this is your spirituality, anchor on it.

  • Sunlight is your friend

    Get outdoors, breath in the fresh air, and soak in the sunlight. It will do wonders for your body, mind and spirit.

    Better still, book a session of Open-Hearted Walk with me and you get counseling plus a refreshing outdoor walk, all in one! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Socialize

    Be involved in social activities, meet up with your friends.ย  Join a new social club or interest group!

  • Get therapy

    Explore psycho-therapy, energy healing. For example, Aroma Freedom Technique is known to be a quick process that helps you process past negative feelings and memories, so that you can let go of the past and move your emotional energy into a positive direction.

  • Challenge your thoughts

    When that negative voice starts again, challenge it. Don’t just accept it. Ask for evidence for what it’s saying and think of times/evidence when it was not the case.

  • Keep going!

    Even when you don’t feel like it, still get up and moving. Continue to meet friends, walk the dog, show up for work. Keep going!

So, are you depressed?

What jumped out at you from this post?

Use this depression quiz to determine where you are.

It is important to seek support and even professional help if you are depressed. First thing first, awareness. Use the depression quiz to gain awareness.

REFERENCES:

  • https://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-women#1
  • https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/depression-in-women.htm
  • https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression-in-women/index.shtml
  • https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/4-fast-mood-boosters-

Be kind to yourself today dear one.

Grab your depression quiz here.

*** If you would like to book for a coaching / counseling / Aroma Freedom Technique session with me, here is the link.

Namaste.

Story SMASHer,

Joy

~ Nurturing Resilience, Vitality and Self-love in Women ~