Are You Depressed?

In the U.S alone, about 15 million people suffer from depression annually. Although majority are women,

almost two-thirds do not seek help.

  • Are you among the two-thirds?
  • Are you wondering if you are depressed?
  • How do you know if you are depressed?

Given the scary statistics on women, you can understand why I feel the need to do a post on depression and women.

WOMEN AND DEPRESSION

Women are twice as likely to develop clinical depression as men. Almost up to one in four women is likely to have at least one episode of major depression at some point in life.

Meaning that

between you and three of your close girlfriends, one of you is going to have a major depression episode at some point.

Depression is common, depression is real and no it doesn’t just happen to ‘other people.’

Depression can happen to anyone, including you and me.

So then, what exactly is depression?

WHAT IS DEPRESSION?

According to Webmd,

clinical depression is a serious and pervasive mood disorder.

It causes feelings of sadness, hopelessness, helplessness, and worthlessness.

Depression can be mild to moderate with symptoms of apathy, little appetite, difficulty sleeping, low self-esteem, and low-grade fatigue. Or it can be more severe.

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS?

In women, symptoms of depression include:

  • Persistent sadness, anxiety, or a sense of ’emptiness’
  • Little or no interest or pleasure in activities, including sex
  • Restlessness, irritability, or excessive crying
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, pessimism
  • Sleeping too much or too  little, middle of the night wakings
  • Loss of appetite &/ weight loss or overeating & weight gain
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, feeling ‘sluggish’
  • Contemplation of death or suicide, or suicide attempts
  • Trouble concentrating, remembering or making decisions
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain

WHY DO WOMEN GET DEPRESSION MORE OFTEN THAN MEN?

  1. BIOLOGICAL/PHYSICAL/HORMONAL

I. Women’s Hormonal Fluctuations

The fluctuations of hormones level throughout a woman’s life have been believed to be a major factor. Hormones changes are most evident during significant periods in a woman’s life.

  • Premenstrual stress can also cause depression, anxiety and mood swings one week before menstruation.
  • Pregnancy, infertility, miscarriage, unwanted pregnancy
  • Postpartum depression
  • Perimenopause and menopause

II. Health Challenges

  • Chronic illness
  • Injury
  • Disability
  • Dieting
  • Quitting vices/addictions (e.g. alcohol, drugs, smoking)
  • Medication side effects (E.g. birth control medication, hormone replacement therapy.)

2. PSYCHOLOGICAL

I. Feelings

Women are more likely to ruminate when they are depressed. We cry to relieve our emotional tension, have negative inner dialogues and confide in friends about our depression.

The thing is,

rumination reinforces depression
and can make it worse.

II. Environmental stressors

Stress from work, school or at home can affect women more than men. Studies have shown that women are more likely to develop depression from stress, as compared to men.

Also, the female physiological response
to stress is to produce
MORE stress hormones.

The female sex hormone progesterone does not turn off the stress hormone system the way it does in men.

III. Body Image Issues

Ah, this is the bomb for women. And often, it already starts in puberty. Not only does a young girl experiences the challenges and confusion that comes with puberty, she would have already been exposed to the implicit and explicit expectations of society about women, by  observing her environment and the female figures in her life. And of course,

the impossible perfect body.

3. SOCIAL

Social factors, lifestyle choices, relationships and coping skills can become potential breeding grounds for depression as well.

  • Marital or love relationships, balancing the demands of romance, home life and career.
  • Family duties, such as caring for the spouse, the young and the aging.
  • Work challenges or discrimination at work such as skipped for a promotion or even retrenchment.
  • Death and sickness of loved ones.

4. OTHER FACTORS

Factors that can increase the chance of depression in women.

  • Genetic
  • Interpersonal
  • Psychological or personality characteristics
  • Being a single parent
  • Family history of mood disorders
  • History of mood disorders in early reproductive years
  • Loss of a parent before age 10
  • Loss of social support system or the threat of such a loss
  • Ongoing psychological and social stress
  • Physical or sexual abuse

HOW TO COPE WITH DEPRESSION

As you can see, depression is common for women,

you are not alone.

While it is challenging to be enthusiastic about resolving your depression issue while in depression, you can start with baby steps.

Here are some suggestions on what you can do to slowly move yourself out of the black vacuum that you are feeling.

I will keep this short because I would like to do a separate post on techniques to cope with depression.

  • Find a friend who can be an open and non-judgemental listener for you.

    If there is none, there are always counselors and therapists near you whom you can seek help from.

  • Physical exercise

    Be it a slow walk by the park or a vigorous kick boxing session, exercise releases endorphins, that can make you feel good and better about yourself.

  • Quality sleep

    Have at least 6-8 of sleep. Do not shortchange yourself on quality sleep that can help you to rest, repair and rejuvenate.

  • Meditate

    Make time for stillness to centered yourself back to your core again. Breath works is great too. My favorite tool is Insight App.

  • Gratitude

    Just for two minutes every night, list down the blessings that still abounds in your life. Breath and expand the sensation of gratitude in your heart.

  • Hydration

    About 60% of the human body is water. Make sure you drink enough water everyday to stay hydrated and to minimize disruptions in the bodily functions/processes. Avoid or minimize alcohol or dehydrating fluids like coffee.

  • Spiritual guidance

    Whatever is your spiritual or religious beliefs, seek constant inspiration and draw strength from it. There must be a reason why this is your spirituality, anchor on it.

  • Sunlight is your friend

    Get outdoors, breath in the fresh air, and soak in the sunlight. It will do wonders for your body, mind and spirit.

    Better still, book a session of Open-Hearted Walk with me and you get counseling plus a refreshing outdoor walk, all in one! 🙂

  • Socialize

    Be involved in social activities, meet up with your friends.  Join a new social club or interest group!

  • Get therapy

    Explore psycho-therapy, energy healing. For example, Aroma Freedom Technique is known to be a quick process that helps you process past negative feelings and memories, so that you can let go of the past and move your emotional energy into a positive direction.

  • Challenge your thoughts

    When that negative voice starts again, challenge it. Don’t just accept it. Ask for evidence for what it’s saying and think of times/evidence when it was not the case.

  • Keep going!

    Even when you don’t feel like it, still get up and moving. Continue to meet friends, walk the dog, show up for work. Keep going!

So, are you depressed?

What jumped out at you from this post?

Use this depression quiz to determine where you are.

It is important to seek support and even professional help if you are depressed. First thing first, awareness. Use the depression quiz to gain awareness.

REFERENCES:

  • https://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-women#1
  • https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/depression-in-women.htm
  • https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression-in-women/index.shtml
  • https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/4-fast-mood-boosters-

Be kind to yourself today dear one.

Grab your depression quiz here.

*** If you would like to book for a coaching / counseling / Aroma Freedom Technique session with me, here is the link.

Namaste.

Story SMASHer,

Joy

~ Nurturing Resilience, Vitality and Self-love in Women ~

 

Story SMASHer Coaching Program

This coaching program fills me with so much excitement and joy, because it very much also signifies my own personal growth and healing process.

Bringing to you what has worked powerfully for me,

with the intention that it will do the same or more for you.

We all have stories in our head.

Stories about ourselves, the people around us and the world we live in. Using stories to make meaning, and to make sense of our lives is a very instinctive part of the human psyche.

In fact, that is how cultures have been created and preserved through the years. Myths, legends and even rumors, are stories that we make, stories that we share, that make US go round. It’s like casting magical spells.

The question is,

Are you concocting the right spell
for a joyful you?

Come to think of it, was it so long ago when our ancestors and even until today, the primitive societies or aboriginal cultures still continue sharing stories around the fire.

So, what stories do you have about yourself?

What stories have you been living on a daily basis as if they are real?

It is called the self-fulfilling prophecy. 🙂

  • What have your stories manifested in your life?

  • Are they stories of redemption? Or are they stories of contamination?

  • Do the stories you weave nurture and nourish you?

  • Do you feel joy and peace from the world you have built through your stories?

  • What stories from the past that has helped you ‘survive’ then, do you still carry on with you?

  • What stories from the past that was created by a hurt and lonely child do you still act out, because you do not know how else to respond?

Ever hear a scary story or watch a horror movie that kept you up through the night?

Ever heard an inspiring story and felt motivated to act on an overdue dream?

Then you would know that

the power of stories cannot be underestimated.

What more the stories you are telling YOURSELF?

Stories, like energy and ideas, are so intangible and yet so captivating. Once it hooks your attention, there is no turning back. You become fascinated and engrossed.

And yet, others might have no idea how that story or that idea is influencing you.

It’s potent invisible power.

  • What potent invisible power is steering the wheel of your life?

  • Do you have the awareness to discern?

  • Do you have the courage to find out?

  • How willing are you, to do the work, to claim back joy and peace in your life?

These stories that you are telling yourself defines so many aspects of you; how you behave, what you say, how you feel, how you motivate yourself, and even how you self-sabotage.

Whether you are conscious of it or not, you are living out these stories anyway. They are always there, determining your every move.

  • Are you living a life on autopilot, dictated by these invisible stories?

  • Are you living a life of awareness, conscious of the stories you have about yourself and the world, mindful to live out self-nurturing stories?

  • What is the central story you have about yourself?

Do you even know?

MY STORY

I spent thirty years living a story of
‘I am unworthy and unlovable.’

This was a story weaved by a child, who felt abandoned and unworthy. I continued into adulthood, living from that disempowering space.

I was driven to collecting as many certifications as I could. I was very competitive, and highly judgemental of myself, and the people around me.

Everything that I did or thought was based on the anxiety of having to prove my ‘worthiness’ to myself, and to prove that I am ‘lovable’ to the world.

I was an educated, attractive and deeply depressed young woman.

Deep down, I still felt
unworthy and unlovable.

Sounds familiar?

It took enough pain for me to decide to do ‘radical therapy’ on myself, and to commit to eliminating this story, and to anchor in a more self-nurturing story of

I am an authentic, intuitive,

powerful and playful Shakti.

That journey was ironically triggered by my desire to be an empowerment coach for women. In the preparation process, it occurred to me that

I was the first woman

I needed to help heal and coach.

That began a series of events, therapies, rituals, Warrior Goddess training, SheDance training, Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) training, and many other inspired actions.

It was hard and heart work,

but it began my healing journey, my long pilgrimage back to myself.

Warrior Goddess Training with Heather Ash Amara in Sedona, USA.

It also blossomed into a beautiful autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti.

So here,

I invite you to take my hand
and do the same
for yourself.

Get connected with your heart, and start examining the stories that you are carrying with you. I am here with you, every step of the way, and I will be your cheerleader!

Story SMASH!er was lovingly crafted, based on my own experience, for this very intention, to start you on your way back home to yourself, through self-nurturing stories. 🙂

If you are willing to commit
and to do the work,
read on.

Book your free discovery call here.

Let’s begin.

This is what I will do with you. 🙂

MAIN MODALITIES

The main modalities that is used in the program are

  • Narrative Therapy,

  • Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT),

  • Aromatic Freedom Technique (AFT),

  • Mindfulness practice,

  • Life coaching techniques

  • Fun, laughter and humor! 😉

SUPPORTING RESOURCES

Other supporting tools that we will also be using (this is not an exhaustive list) includes teachings from

  • Warrior Goddess Training (Heather Ash Amara)

  • Choice Theory Reality Therapy (William Glasser)

  • The Work (Byron Katie)

  • Nonviolence Communication (Marshall Rosenberg)

  • Neuro Linguistic Programming

  • SheDance (Areeradh K Tri-Siddha)

  • DiSC Psychometric Profiling

DURATION

  • The program is a 6 MONTHS commitment to give us enough time to do a thorough SMASH and TRASH! ‘house cleaning’ before moving on to anchor new self-nurturing stories.
  • There is also a 3 MONTHS option, but results might be less impactful due to the time constraint.

PHASES

Phase 1 – SMASH and TRASH!

  • Identifying weeds
  • Removing weeds

Phase 2 – SELF NURTURING

  • Choosing your seeds
  • Planting the seeds
  • Watering the seeds
  • Harvesting the love

WEEKLY COMMITMENT

The estimated time investment every week will be about 3 hours.

Every week you will have to attend/do –

  • 1 SMASH!ing Coaching Call

    to begin our inner work for the week, (80 mins)

  • 1 Alignment Call

    in mid week to check on your progress, and to share whatever you might want immediate support with, (15 mins)

  • 1 Reflection Email

    that captures the totality of your insights, reflections, thoughts and challenges for the week, as you work through the contents of your SMASH!ing/Alignment calls, Shaktified!, Shakti Dare and SMASH! Diary. (15 mins)

  • SMASH! Diary

    involving daily diary entries, where you are invited to write at least 5 sentences, that summarizes your reflections and insights for the day, and if you like, set an intention or goal for the following day. (20 mins p/wk)

BONUSES

  • Shaktified! (Worth US$400)

    a fun component of Story SMASH!er Program which extends the work that we are doing together, to support you in an all-encompassing holistic manner, as a Shakti (woman standing in her Divine Feminine power).
    This is where the support resources comes into the process, and the Shaktified! activity differs weekly such as Warrior Goddess lessons, Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT), TMRT, Shakti on Fire Coaching Series for Women, etc. (40 mins)

  • SHAKTI Dare

    is an activity, that is aimed to push you beyond your comfort zone. It is meant as a friendly dare for you, to have fun and more playful moments in your life.

    Story SMASH!er program can be intense as you do deep work to rewire your brain, re-authoring your stories and re-alignment with your heart.
    The goal of SHAKTI Dare is to help balance you energetically while you do your inner work. (10 mins)
    After all, who says inner work has to be oh so serious all the time? 😉

  • DiSC Profiling (Worth US$100)

    DiSC is a behavior assessment tool based on the DISC theory of psychologist, William Moulton Marston, which centers on four different behavioral traits: dominance, inducement, submission, and compliance.
    You will get your own free DiSC Profiling report to gain greater insights into your own motivations and behavior.

  • Credits Rebate (Worth up to US$300)

    Sometimes it will be tough going because we are doing hard and heart work here. In order to encourage you to stay the course, I will be offering $200 credit rebate (for the 3 months program), and $300 credit rebate (for the 6 months program).

    When you have succeed in finishing your coaching (YEAH!), you will be given credits, which you can use to offset whatever additional/other services I offer outside of your Story SMASH!er package. At no additional cost to you!

    On top of it, I will also allow you to use this rebate, as a gift for someone else. Let’s encourage healing and spread the love around. 🙂

BONUSES UP TO US$800!!!

YOU ARE UNIQUE

You are wonderfully unique and rightly so. The pace of the coaching and how we will move through the different phases, will be determined by your evolution in the process.

This program is for your growth and your nurturing, so YOU, will dictate the pace and our progress. 🙂

DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES?

Yes, as you would have realized by now, this is NOT a program for the half-hearted, or the indecisive.

It is meant for women who
~ has enough of the pain,
~ really want the change,
~
who is committed to doing the required inner work, to unleash their
Shakti (Divine Feminine power).

Book now for your free discovery call with me.

What do you have to lose?

Hmmm…

How about disempowering stories, negative memories and feelings and a disillusioned future? 🙂

And to encourage you, I will give you an e-copy of my book, where you can read more about my personal journey to self-healing and empowerment.

Come back home dear Shakti, it’s time.

Book your free discovery call here.

COLLABORATION INVITATION

  • Like what you see?
  • Keen to be my affiliate and support others?
  • Have ideas on how we can work together and create more value for the world?

I am all ears! 🙂

Let’s create more co-abundance!

Book our call over here and let’s chat!

Namaste,

Joy Leng

Story SMASH!er

 

 

 

 

MeToo with AFT, NO to sexual harassment

When I first saw #metoo on social media, it immediately triggered in my mind, an episode from my childhood that caused a lot of grief for me as an adolescent. I know that its effects still have a hold on me today.

I also know that many women would have responded to #metoo the same way, with painful flashbacks.

After all, how many women had not been sexually harassed in some big or small ways in their lives, at least once?

I meditated on how, as a life coach and a story SMASHer for women, would I want to respond to #metoo. The easiest way would be to share that episode that I have carried with me for so many years.

That thought jammed my heart into my throat. Woah, that is a big move Joy. Very few people know about that incident.

Admittedly it took a while but I decided yes, that is the most authentic way to approach this subject, from my personal experience. I am grateful to #metoo, because it also reminded me that it was time to heal myself of that emotional scar.

Since it is from a very long time ago, there is nothing I can do now to catch the culprit. It would be impossible to do so. But what I CAN do is heal myself from the wounds it has created.

So today, I have done an Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) session for myself, revolving around the topic of standing up for myself against sexual harassment.

Something that all women can do, heal ourselves, let go of the past hurts and set an intention to stand up for ourselves moving forward.

Coming back to this traumatic incident. It happened when I was about twelve years old. I was instructed by my parents to get dinner for everyone. So I promptly head off to the coffee-shop to order our takeaways.

Upon reaching my block, I pressed the lift button and waited. At this moment, a Chinese man in his late thirties appeared, strolling by with his bicycle.

I had been trained by my mother to keep a lookout for strangers, especially men. I was instructed to avoid taking lifts with men I don’t know. So yes you can imagine, I perked up, waiting to see if he is passing by or if he is also waiting for the lift.

To my relief, he walked right past me. But not before looking at me intently. My lift came and I hurried in, glad to be alone.

But it was not the case.

Just when the lift door was about to close, it started to move in the opposite direction. I was taken aback. Confusion and fear set in when I saw that it was the same man with the bicycle.

I was standing at the corner farthest from the lift door, and he parked his bicycle diagonally right in the middle of the lift, before he entered. I was completely trapped in a corner by his bicycle that took up the entire lift space.

I was too overwhelmed to react and he pressed the lift door closed. He looked intently at me. Again. I was drenched with a sense of dread. I felt

something very bad was about to happen.

He pressed and moved his hand across my chest, his eyes never once leaving mine. I froze. My hands were occupied with the takeaways, and I had no way to run. I felt a silent scream from within.

I wanted to die.

His floor arrived and he quickly exited. The lift door closed. My legs buckled and I collapsed onto the floor. I was a mess. My floor came but I did not exit. I sat inside the lift, completely blanked out.

At some point, I managed to pick myself up and went home. I feigned illness when I got home, and spend the whole night lying in my bed, tortured by the images from the lift and the molester.

I told no one.

For weeks, I was tormented by the episode. I felt dirty. I felt unworthy. I was ashamed. I was not close to my parents, and I was terrified of telling them.

I would be blamed for not following their instructions. I was the wrong one. I was the bad one. I must be a terrible person, that is why this is happening to me.

I was distraught and destroyed. Still, I did not tell a single soul.

I grew up carrying that unworthiness into my life, like a silent cancer.

Today, as a woman in her thirties, I am telling you, #metoo, this is my story.

What is yours?

Today I decided to put my brave on, and do an AFT session on myself revolving around sexual harassment. I must confess that I went into the session, with a lot of apprehension.

I am not looking forward to experiencing all that pain and horror again. Nevertheless, I went ahead.

This and other hurtful memories and feelings rose up. There is a common thread of unworthiness in the memories and feelings. I wept. I felt nauseous. The waves of pain needed no further encouragement.

I wanted to die.

I pressed on.

Resentment and shame turned into grief. Then my feelings took a turn. I started to feel a sense of determination. I was even feeling upbeat by the last AFT round, which surprised me.

By the time I was done with my power pose, I was invigorated. I felt cleansed and a sense of release.

What took me so long to do this?

  • What sexual harassment episode(s) is/are still haunting you?
  • What can you do about it?
  • How can you bring the culprit to justice?
  • Healing yourself is your own responsibility, what can you do to start the process?
  • What victim story have you been telling yourself &/ others?
  • What ‘poor me’ behaviour have you been acting out in the world?
  • Moving forward, how would you want to be if it ever happens again?

Do something, do anything.

Do something.

SPECIAL INCENTIVE

Book your AFT session and get a free e-copy of my autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti, a woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment. 🙂

P.S. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

 

Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT)

The Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) is a simple process designed to help you get from where you are to where you want to be.

  • Do you have dreams, hope and goals that you would like to achieve?

  • Do you sometimes feel stuck, confused, or hopeless about ever reaching your goals?

  • Have you ever encountered fears and resistance towards reaching for what you want and you did not understand why?

AFT can help you with all of the above.

The founder of AFT, Dr Benjamin Perkus is a psychotherapist in practice, trained in multiple psychotherapeutic approaches since 1995.

He has been using and teaching about essential oil since 2001. He is the author of the book ‘The Aroma Freedom Technique: Using Essential Oils to Transform Your Emotions and Realize Your Heart’s Desire’.

While the process will appear deceptively simple to you, it is firmly grounded in the practices of many schools of psychotherapy, such as

  • Jung,

  • Freud,

  • Cognitive Therapy,

  • Behaviorism,

  • Body-Centered Psychotherapy and

  • EMDR/EFT/NET.

AFT is also intergrated with

  • energy psychology and

  • aromatherapy.

The heart of AFT is to guide you to use

  • Awareness combined with

  • Essential oils and

  • Taking positive action.

The main premise for AFT is that the response to smell is powerful and automatic.

I will elaborate more on the mechanics behind AFT in another post.

There are 12 steps to the AFT process. Here I will explain briefly the first 10 steps.

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

FIRST 10 STEPS OF AFT

  1. Set your intention. Rate its likelihood (0-10).
  2. Listen to the negative voice that says why this cannot happen.
  3. Notice how you feel when you hear the negative voice.
  4. Notice where you feel it in your body.
  5. Drift back to your earlier time when you felt the same way.
  6. Focus on the snapshot while you smell the essential oil.
  7. See what happens to the image, thoughts, and feelings.
  8. Notice the new beliefs starting to emerge. Identify creative ideas related to your intention.
  9. State your original intention aloud. Rate its likelihood (0-10).
  10. Create an affirmation that expresses your new, positive belief.

If this is your first time doing AFT, you are strongly recommended to do it with a facilitator. Even for myself, I find it easier and more powerful to do my process with another facilitator.

Alternatively, you can read up on Dr Perkus’ book and follow the instructions in it.

The key here is to get started.

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

All feelings are messengers of love,

here to tell you something that you need to do to heal and empower yourself.

Receive the message, process your emotions so that you can set yourself free and clear the space to make way for more positive and empowering manifestations in your life.

All it takes is less than an hour

for you to release negative feelings, memories

that do not serve your highest good.

And the good news is, yes, it can be done face to face or via online platforms such as Skype/Zoom.

So book an AFT session today.

Let the beginnings of your Shakti life commence here.

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

SPECIAL INCENTIVE

Book your AFT session and get a FREE e-copy of my autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti, a woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment. 🙂

P.s. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

 

 

 

 

 

 

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

 

My Aroma Freedom Technique Story

The Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) is a simple process designed to help you get from where you are to where you want to be.

I found AFT accidentally when I signed up for an online wellness summit where Dr Perkus was interviewed. That was when I was first introduced to AFT. I was intrigued and skeptical at the same time.

I have always had a deep love for essential oils and I used them for myself, and my home on a daily basis. For a while now, I have been looking for a modality that can manage the blockages that are submerged in the client’s subconscious level that, as a life coach, is beyond my reach.

That desire came from my observation of several clients, who seemed to be unable to fulfill their commitment to follow up tasks, despite successful coaching sessions.

My instinct told me that there are some hidden barriers, that were also beyond their conscious awareness, that was hindering what would had otherwise been meaningful and sustainable progress.

I was reluctant to include energy modalities such as Reiki and EFT because it is not always accepted by the masses, and can sometimes be considered too intangible for clients to feel a sense of credibility and validity to their healing/empowerment process.

I attended a free webinar, where AFT was used to heighten intuition. I was blown away by my own experience. In a very short time, I felt a painful memory that had been my companion for a long time, fade away.

I even tried to ‘catch’ back the intensity and the pain of the memory that I was so familiar with, and was very surprised to find that, that was hard to do. That was when I felt a sense of excitement, that this could be the modality that I was looking for, to complement my life coaching work.

What I most appreciate about the process is how fast, how elegant and how non-intrusive it is. Unlike other modality such as psychotherapy where you need to have all the details in order to assist the clients, you can still facilitate an effective AFT session, no matter how much or how little was shared by the client.

That is just invaluable, especially to reach out to people who are not so prone to sharing too much, either out of fear or personality.

Having since my course, I have added AFT to my coaching work and I found it to be a beautiful match. Now the client not only can work through their goals and challenges with the conscious mind, they can at the same time, clear whatever barriers from the past that could hinder their active attempts in getting what they want.

Personal alchemy at its best!

There is also a sense of satisfaction, that I did the right thing to take the certification, since I took the course more out of impulse, instinct and excitement, rather than on deliberate contemplation and planning.

I am grateful to have encountered AFT in such an unexpected manner, even though I had been ‘waiting’ for it. I am looking forward to use this new modality to help women clear their blockages, that has been keeping them from feeling whole, and from celebrating all that it means to be a woman.

One thing that I especially love about AFT is how accessible it is in everyday life. All you need is the process and the oils. With just that you can already help someone in need anywhere, anytime.

So thank you Dr Benjamin Perkus for creating such a wonderful modality to help people who want to help themselves, and for people who want to help others.

Simply wonderful. Thank you.

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

SPECIAL INCENTIVE

Book your AFT session and get a FREE e-copy of my autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti, a woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment. 🙂

P.s. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

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AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
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*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

Wonder Woman Way – Sexy Fun Empowerment Workshop for Women (Fundraising Event)

This body ~ mind ~ spirit workshop has primarily three parts to it (in order of sequence)

1. Warrior Goddess Meditation

2. Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT)

3. Bellyfit Cardio

1. WARRIOR GODDESS MEDITATION (conducted by Joy Leng)
Based on the teachings of Warrior Goddess Training (by Heather Ash Amara), certified Warrior Goddess Facilitator Joy Leng will walk you through a heart-centered meditation.

2. AROMA FREEDOM TECHNIQUE – AFT (conducted by Joy Leng)
It largely works on the subconscious. It helps to bring out suppressed negative thoughts/beliefs/feelings, clear past traumas, trapped emotions, increase intuition and gain clarity. We will be focusing on the challenges that prevent you from celebrating being a woman and standing fully in your power.

3. BELLYFIT CARDIO (conducted by Anne Elizabeth Moss)
Bellyfit® is the holistic fitness experience for women that blends the power and wisdom of ancient cultures with the research, technology and trends of the modern world.

Designed exclusively for the female body, mind and spirit, Bellyfit® offers a full body, full of spirit, extraordinary exercise experience in a safe, effective, intelligent group fitness format guaranteed to satisfy women’s desire to feel beautiful, strong and healthy.

In the first half hour of the class, burn mega calories, relieve stress and get the sweat flowing with fun, easy to learn cardio moves infused with the ancient and beautiful fundamentals of Bellydance, Bollywood and African Dance.

During the second half of the class, enjoy sculpting, toning and tightening with Pilates inspired core work, a deep yet relaxing Yoga inspired stretch and mindful Mudra Meditation.

Sign up today!

FACILITATORS BIO

ANNE MOSS
Originally from Michigan (USA), Anne has been living in Asia for 7 years while teaching English most of those years. Before moving across the world she studied and performed bellydance for more than a decade, with 3 of those years teaching bellydance in Sarnia, Canada.

She took a yoga teacher training course in India in 2014, and has been able to teach her English students during camps. In addition, she has taught adult yoga, dance and Bellyfit® in Taipei and Singapore.

She has placed in international competitions, performed in 12 countries, holds a Level 3 teaching certificate by the Korean Bellydance Association, hatha/vinyasa yoga (RYT-200), group exercise leadership ( ACE) and Bellyfit® Teacher Certifications. She has worked with Darren Ho’s Le’Mirage Bellydance company for the 2015-2016 season and currently teaches regular Bellyfit® classes in Singapore.

JOY LENG

Joy Leng is the founder of Joylight Transformational Coaching, author of ‘From Zero to Shakti’ and producer of Shakti on Fire Podcast.

She is also an ICF accredited empowerment coach and a certified warrior goddess facilitator, trained by Heather Ash Amara, a Reiki healer and an Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) practitioner.

Being an adventurous soul, she was among the first, to start a pole dancing studio in Singapore, SensUal Joy Studio in 2005. She is a passionate latin dancer and was a professional dancer for many years before embarking on being a life coach.

She is the founder of For Our Children (FOC), an intiative set up to raise funds to build schools in developing countries. FOC has raised S$12,000 previously to help rebuild Ongkrong Primary School in Cambodia, under Tabitha Cambodia.

Her mission is to ignite kick ass lives and to empower one million women (Shaktis on FIre) to do three million good deeds by 2028.

FUND RAISING FOR FOR OUR CHILDREN (FOC)

83% of proceeds goes to FOC ($40 of every ticket).

Sign up today!

P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Catch kick ass episodes at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

Joy
~ Igniting Kick Ass Lives ~

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
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*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

FREE GIFTS

You will receive the following complimentary gifts –

  1. 3 2ml pure essential oils to use for the Aroma Freedom Technique session worth S$10
  2. A paperback copy of Joy’s autobiographical book, From Zero to Shakti worth S$20
  3. An online course, 7 Days Self Compassion Challenge worth US$25

FREE GIFTS VALUED AT US$45

Have sexy fun and ignite your inner wonder woman while doing your part for the children. It can’t get better than this.

Sign up today!

Shattering Your Stories with Joy Leng on Wide Awakened Healing Podcast

Tarah Long is an amazing sweet soul who I am so glad to know. She emailed me about being interviewed on Shakti on Fire Podcast, which was an easy yes for me.

You can check out her interview episode here.

I found her to be so gentle and genuine, it was true delight to talk to her. Make sure you check out both our interviews! 🙂

Listen to my interview here.

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Excerpt from the podcast show notes –

  • What stories are you holding onto?

  • How have they defined you up until this moment?

  • Are you ready to see them for what they are?

In our conversation, we talk about a pivotal moment in her journey where she used the “empty chair technique” to have a long overdue conversation with her birth mom. This conversation changed her life.

We also discuss her passion for empowering women to let go of their own stories, following your intuition no matter what, how to turn your journal into a book, and much more.

If you’re ready to look a little deeper at what may be limiting you in your own life, join us over on iTunes or listen below! And if you enjoy the episode, please let us know and leave a review on iTunes!

Listen to my interview here.

*** Also don’t forget to grab my free downloadable Find Your Passion pdf gift. 🙂

P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Catch kick ass episodes at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

Joy
~ Igniting Kick Ass Lives ~

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

Shakti on Fire Podcast Ep 6 – Emotion Body Code with Rimi Yoshida

Listen to the podcast episode here.

HEALING – Pain 2 Power, Wounds 2 Wisdom Spotlight 1

– What is Emotion / Body Code?

– How can it help you?

– What is muscle testing?

– What is the difference with other therapies?

– What is the hole in one method?

– Tibetan healing bowl meditation

Listen to the podcast episode here.

Play

Shakti on Fire Podcast Ep 3 – Warrior Goddess Training with Heather Ash Amara

Podcast – http://www.blogtalkradio.com/shaktionfire

  • My experience doing Warrior Goddess Training with Heather Ash Amara
  • What does it mean to be the woman you were meant to be?
  • The ten lessons in Warrior Goddess Training
  • The power of sisterhood, having a community

Support me at Patreon! – https://www.patreon.com/shaktionfire

Website – www.joyleng.com

Shakti on Fire FB Group – https://www.meetup.com/ShaktionFire/

LinkedIn – https://sg.linkedin.com/in/joyleng

FB – www.facebook.com/joymycoach

My latest book – www.fromzerotoshakti.joyleng.com

Free Chapter Giveaway of my book – http://bit.ly/2o1q0hV

Online Courses/Coaching – www.joylight.teachable.com

Free 2 chapters of Warrior Goddess Training – http://www.hierophantpublishing.com/warrior-goddess-training/

Grab your free book chapter here at

www.fromzerotoshakti.joyleng.com

Shakti on Fire (SOF) Walk the Talk, An Open-Hearted Walk with Joy

http://joylight.teachable.com/p/walk-talk-sg

~ FOR WOMEN ~

Hello there,

My name is Joy.

I am an ICF accreditated life coach, with a BA in psycholgy, and trained in Choice Theory/Reality Therapy.

Recently, I wrote a book, From Zero to Shakti.

It is about my life story, of how depression and a sense of loneliness and unworthiness have occupied a big part of my life. And the multiple inauthentic relationships that I have allowed myself to go through.

So yes, I have been there.

In fact, that is why I underwent all the years of psychology and coaching training that I did.

So that I can help others who are going through similar situations.

Based on the Singapore Mental Health Study conducted in 2010 by Institute of Medical Health, as many as 1 in 17 people have suffered from Major Depressive Disorder at some time in their life.

We can stop this modern day phenomenon.

By taking early steps in taking care of our mental health. And those of our loved ones.

  • FEELING ALL COPED UP?
  • HAVE EMOTIONS YOU FIND HARD TO EXPRESS?
  • DON’T KNOW WHO YOU CAN TALK TO?
  • HAVE PLANS YOU DON’T KNOW WHERE TO BEGIN?

You are at the right place.

Are you

– In Singapore?

– Have issues you want to sort out?

– Need to clarify confusing feelings?

– Want to process a recent disturbing event?

– Looking for a trained and compassionate coach?

– Knows someone who is?

Book Your Open Hearted Walk with Me.

It is easy to get lost in our mental plane and be overwhelmed with the negative emotions that we are feeling.

By walking with me as you open up your heart,

– we engage your physical body to help keep you in the present moment.

Talking to a non-judgemental and trained individual,

– Who is wholly here to listen and to be with you,

– Will help you feel heard and

– To release the intense energy that is trapped within you.

This process gently guides you,

– To process and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings.

With that deeper self awareness,

– We can work towards planning your next thoughtful steps.

By taking this walk with me, it means

 

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

You be surprised about how you feel and the insights you can get.

Take an open hearted walk with me.

HOW?

– Once payment is confirmed, I will contact you to schedule

– One hour walk/coaching

– Bay area outside Marina Bay Sands and Fullerton Bay Hotel

– Includes short breath works and visualization

– Subject to changes depending on the weather and area conditions

– The walk is valid for 3 months from the date of purchase.

Book your open hearted walk with me here.

A GIFT OF LOVE

  • Worried about someone dear to you?
  • Not sure how to reach out?
  • Book an open-hearted walk for your loved one.

Let’s help someone smile again.

Book an open hearted walk for a loved one.


HAPPY BONUSES!!

To support you further on your path to healing, I will be giving you


– A free ecopy of my latest book, From Zero to Shakti (Worth US$4.99)


– 7 Days Self Compassion Challenge (E-course format) (Worth US$25)

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TOTAL BONUSES worth US$30

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Book Your Open Hearted Walk Today.

Namaste.

Blessings,

Joy

PLEASE NOTE THAT –

– This is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment and before undertaking a new health care regimen.

– I reserve the right to cancel or postpone the walk in my sole discretion.

Feeling suicidal?

Call Samaritans of Singapore at 1800-221 4444