Happy new year to one and all!
2017 came and went with a gush of wind. It is crazy but hey we are already in the beginnings of January 2018. And the first full moon of the year has already been in sight. Wow.
- So how do you plan to go about your year ahead?
- Do you have a plan?
- What are your goals?
- What precious insights from 2017 are you bringing with you to ensure that no mistakes are repeated, and lessons translate into goals manifestation?
If you are as impatient as I am, then I would suspect you are in a hurry to jump right into action, and do the first random thing that comes to mind. Resist the temptation. I repeat.
RESIST THE TEMPTATION.
I call this post/episode the 2018 Blockbuster Part 1 because this is the first of a two part series, where I will share how you can make 2018 a most spectacular blockbuster of a year for you, by setting it up right, from the start.
To be honest with you, even though I did my Vision Board for 2017, and because of that I had a pretty good idea what I wanted for the year.
While I also create some powerful tools to help extend my vision board into daily life, there were still parts from my vision board that did not manifest.
One of the reasons was because I did not deliberately reflect on the lessons learnt from the previous year, and include that into my goals and plans for the new year.
I refuse to repeat mistakes
that can be avoided.
With a little patience.
That is why I am making
Reflections that transform Life Lessons into Goals and Fulfillment
free for you.
Because my 2018 prayer for you is that you start your year not by seeking what’s outside of yourself. But that
you begin your journey
by going inwards.
By doing so, you will naturally gravitate authentically to what your heart is looking for.
Remember, the first step to what’s worthy is towards your heart. And
anything that takes you away from your heart robs you from true living.
Besides that being my prayer for you, how would pausing a moment to reflect help to supercharge your year?
1. Lessons from the past
Reflecting helps you to learn from the past, and cement the lessons from your experiences.
2. Avoid repeated mistakes.
There is a saying that says the first time you make a mistake, it is an accident. The second time you make the same mistake, it is on purpose. The third time you make that same mistake, it is no longer a mistake. It is a habit.
Mistake, intention or habit, you choose.
3. Gain insights
One precious gem about reflecting on the mistakes that we have made is that it gives us a deeper insight into something we have not noticed before. Or a different perspective on things that can become a game changer for us.
4. Pass it on
Reflecting allows us to share the lessons from our mistakes with others so that they don’t have to go the hard trodden road that we already did. Sharing is caring. Why reinvent the wheel?
5. Happiness in a can
Reflecting does not only apply to the negative episodes in our lives. It also extends to the happy experiences we have. Reflecting increases the joy we have gleaned from these experiences, and reminds us how to have more of it in our lives. It’s happiness in a can! 🙂
6. Sparks your creativity
Often times, when we reflect deeply on what has happened, the other possibilities that could have happened if things were done differently, you will suddenly have an intuitive hit! Creativity is heightened in your reflective state. Sparks can fly!
7. Know Thyself
Aristotle once said,
‘Knowing yourself is the
beginning of all wisdom.’
What better way than to reflect on your past feelings, thoughts and actions? 🙂
This is the Part 1 of your blockbuster magic tool. Using reflections from lessons learnt in 2017 to transform into 2018 goals and fulfillment.
Are you ready to activate your first blockbuster magic tool?
First Stepper is a free program which is Step 1 of a 12 Steps Goal Setting Program called Let’s Step! I am giving it free, to encourage you to use the power of reflections, to create a more meaningful and laser focused 2018 for yourself.
Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program has three Focus Areas to it, and each area has four steps to it. Given that First Stepper is part of Focus Area 1, I will just briefly share about the goal of Focus Area 1 of Let’s Step!
The goal of Focus Area 1 is to guide you to a place of raised awareness and clarity through
- Reflecting the realization and wisdom that the recent past has to offer,
- Defining the desired areas for change and for excellence,
- Establishing powerful reinforcement structures, to ensure the highest possibility for the fulfillment of the goals you declared.
So speaking of reinforcement structures, as step 1 of Let’s Step! Program, First Stepper is the first reinforcement structure set in place, using the power of reflection.
American philosopher and psychologist John Dewey says,
“We do not learn from experience…
we learn from REFLECTING on experience.”
The positive effects on reflection was confirmed by a research done by the Harvard Business School indicating that
Dedicating time to reflect on your life and work regularly have an affect on performance.
Enters First Stepper, Reflections that transform Life Lessons into Goals and Fulfillment. 🙂
So before you dash off clueless into the the year, let’s take some time to reflect on how the last twelve months have been for you. The yeahs!, the eeeeks!, the should haves, the shouldn’t haves, and so on.
Let’s reflect and see what gems you can learn from it. By doing so, you can be sure that
when it’s time to set goals, you are doing it with crystal clarity.
You can be confident that when you have reached your goal, it is truly what you wanted because you took the extra crucial step to reflect, before setting your goal for the year.
Here, I will take you briefly through some of the questions in First Stepper that you can reflect on, with some personal examples to help you along.
However, you are encouraged to take First Stepper properly, and put yourself in a quiet environment where you can write down your answers, and do a proper full-fledged reflection.
In the last 12 months, what have been your greatest pride in work, family & friends, and personal development?
Personal development can be in the mental, physical and spiritual sense. It can also be however you are comfortable to define it. It’s your reflection piece for yourself! 🙂
It was borne out of a desire to expand the conversations in the book further, revolving around themes such as self compassion, forgiveness, courage and authenticity.
Imagine you are being featured on the cover page of TIME magazine, what would it say about you? How would it describe you?
Are you satisfied with that? If not, write down what you would have preferred instead.
If I were featured in TIME magazine, I would like to be described as the trailblazer for Shaktis empowering the world. It best summarized my One Million Shaktis, Three Million Sparks dream.
What closure or completion from the last 12 months would you want to focus on finishing up in the next 12 months in terms of work, family & friends, and personal development?
What are the sacrifices you would be required to make, in order to make the completion mentioned in your previous answer?
What are the qualities you will need to cultivate in yourself in order to support the completion required?
E.g. Patience, Focus, Creativity.
For me, I will need to have endurance to stay the course, when things get tough. I need to cultivate a sense of initiative, taking the first step. In order to do that, I also need to manage my fear, that stops me from taking action.
I also need to have self awareness to manage my negative self talk and excuses, whenever it arises.
What is the worst thing that can happen if you do not complete what you set out to do?
Imagine that you have achieved your goal(s), how would you feel? How does it mean to you? What are the implications?
What was most exciting/satisfying about the last 12 months?
- What were you doing?
- Who were you with?
- Why was it exciting?
- What would be ONE word you would use to describe how you feel about it?
Going for my first bachata bootcamp in SILF was a huge accomplishment for me. Especially since I went into it thinking that it was a beginners bootcamp! I was petrified and utterly stressed out to be on stage performing in the front line in front of dancers. I was far from perfect but I did it. 🙂
I felt EXHILARATED!
If this is something that you would like to have more of, how would you want it to be better?
- Or bring it to the next level?
- What’s next?
What was most regrettable about the last 12 months?
- What were you doing?
- Who did it affect?
- Why was it regrettable?
- What would be ONE word you would use to describe how you feel about it?
If you were given a second chance, what are some of the things that you could have done differently in the last 12 months?
I would have made time to learn and experiment on how to be a better and more active listener. I would have researched on how I can make that happen, and actively practice and apply what I have learnt. I think it would have made great difference in my relationships with people.
What is the greatest learning lesson(s) you have gained from the last 12 months?
How would you translate that learning into your life? What practical steps will you take moving forward?
Looking at the last 12 months, when did you allow fear and doubts to hold you back from getting what you wanted?
What would you have done differently?
What was non-inspiring/dreadful for you about the last 12 months?
How do you intend to change it for the next 12 months?
- Remove it?
- Adjust it?
- Replace it?
In three words, describe the person that you were for the last 12 months.
My three words are learner, achiever, artiste.
In three words, describe the person that you are going to be in the next 12 months.
My three words are learner, influencer, artiste.
What is the difference, if any? Why the difference?
How are you going to materialize the difference?
If you have been seriously answering these questions meditatively and thoroughly, well done!
Congratulations, you are definitely on your way to transform precious life lessons learnt in 2017 into meaningful goals for 2018, that will led to immense satisfaction and fulfillment for you.
So take a deep breath, sleep over it too if you want to before coming back to review all that you have written.
From there, see what arises for you. New insights, goals and aspirations for the new year. Write it all down.
Listen to your heart.
Hold on to these precious notes for you will need them for the
next post/episode where I will reveal Blockbuster Part II.
Thank you for taking the time with me to reflect on your 2017 life lessons. I find the idea that I will not be repeating mistakes I made in 2017, because I made time to learn from it already very satisfying.
Sometimes the way to move forward is to move backwards. And
Sometimes the fastest way
is to move slow.
Don’t forget who won in the end! The tortoise! 😉
Let’s make your 2018 a most spectacular blockbuster year ever!
For those of you who have not been thorough in this exercise, don’t forget to get started properly on your First Stepper, Reflections that transform Life Lessons into Goals and Fulfillment.
Start 2018 with clarity and purpose.
Leaving you with this beautiful quote from Rumi.
In the cycles of our lives, there will be some beginnings that seem bubbling with beautiful promises. There is a delicious air of anticipation.
While it is definitely well and good to be motivated, with the exciting pulse of new possibilities, it is vital to remind ourselves that
nothing happens without
intention and commitment.
Oh, what a downer. But it isn’t. It means you get to play. Take out the blank canvas and dream.
- What medium would you like to use?
- What would you like to draw?
- What kind of colour would you be using?
Possibilities are infinite.
The blank space is inviting you to
fill it up with what inspires you.
This is exactly how I view vision boards. They are such a powerful tool to employ in the beginning of the year, or in a new phase of your life. You engage your mind and your senses, to decide what are your goals for the way forward.
Investigate what inspires you, and is worth your time and effort. You prioritize them, and declare it on your vision board.
As I started working on mine,
I just got more and more energized.
There is so much power in putting down on paper what was till that point, merely drifting thoughts in my mind.
I observed the same response from my clients. As I guide them to imagine, and to claim what they want to be theirs,
their eyes sparkled.
It was so intoxicating for me to watch someone else weave their dreams into their vision board. Truly magical.
When it was all done, I heaved a sigh of relief and contentment. It felt like a huge brain dump. Except that what I was releasing, were very pleasing things that were close to my heart.
As I look intently at my vision board in its entirety, my heart started to sing. It was almost too much to bear, to gaze at all that I desire at one glance. I felt true soul magic at work.
I also felt the newfound determination
to see it to its completion.
One of my clients thanked me after our vision board magic session, and shared that it had helped her resolve a lingering dilemma for the last two weeks. She was considering a study bond from her company, which was a very crucial step for her. But she had reservations and doubt.
In the course of drawing out her intentions for her work onto her vision board, she suddenly realized that the answer from her heart was a yes.
All the fears and concerns that had kept her immobile all these time, melted away.
Such vision board magic!
The way I do my vision board is radically different from the usual vision boards out there. My version of vision board comes from years of trials and error.
I did not want to just create yet another vision board for the new year, without acknowledging the parts that didn’t work for me the year before. I also wanted to make sure that my vision board is a board that works, with visions manifested.
Hence, together with my own observations and feedback from my clients, Vision Board Magic (VBM) was born.
The potent secret ingredients in VBM adds an alchemical element to the vision board, that helps it to become more accessible in daily life. After all, you can’t go everywhere with your vision board.
But what’s the use of a vision board that does not weave its magic in your daily life, to manifest what’s on it?
Vision Board Magic – Magic Amplification.
Today, I will share two of these potent ingredients of Vision Board Magic. When these ingredients are thrown into the pot, it will change a pretty picture board on your wall, to a board that works and visions that manifest.
Before we move in that direction, I want to make it clear what vision board is and more importantly, what vision board is NOT. That will ensure that your vision board is created with conviction, and delusions-free.
Vision board is NOT a magic pill.
Just because you made time to create a most beautiful vision board, does not mean that it will now automatically manifest by iteself. Tough luck Shakti but you need to commit, and do the actual work to ground your goals into reality.
Your vision board is the modest seed that you have embedded into the soil. It is not the blossoming plant. You actually need to water it, care for it, and give consistent time and attention for the beautiful flowers, that is waiting to bloom.
Vision board is a magnifier.
Your vision board not only activates your goals, and it is brought to the forefront of your conscious mind. It reveals to you where to focus your attention, and what to look out for in your daily life.
In doing so, it magnifies your visions powerfully on the energetic level. A compound effect is generated towards your goals, your efforts and your intentions.
The more you act on your vision board, the faster you snowball towards your desired outcomes. The law of synchronicity is also activated. You start to attract ‘coincidences’.
Vision board is not for the chicken-hearted.
The Cambridge dictionary defines vision as the ability to imagine how a country, society, industry, etc. could develop in the future and to plan for this.I repeat, and … to … plan … for … it. That is what you are doing with your vision board, something a chicken is unable to do.
A chicken does not aspire to be an eagle, it doesn’t even spend much time looking up! It is busy pecking for food. Neither does it have the notion to admire the sunset or the sunrise.
Vision boards are for people who have the guts to dream, to visualize a desired future for themselves. Who is willing to have the faith, even if they cannot see the path ahead, at the moment.
In short, vision boards are meant for visionaries.
Are you a visionary?
Alright, now that we have that clarity and reality-check, it is time to reveal two of my Vision Board Magic secrets to you.
Are you ready?
Vision Board Magic Secret Ingredients
1. A Vision Board Magic is a Being Board.
- Have you ever created vision boards before?
- Have you ever looked back at your board one year later, and wondered ‘why on earth was that goal on my board?
- Have you ever achieved what was on your board, and then felt disappointed, because it did not satisfy you at all?
The antidote is to think of your vision board as a representation of your BE-ingness. It is not about what you want to do, what you want to have, etc.
It is about who you are BE-ing.
Which area of your BEing-ness are you focusing on this new year or this new phase of your life?
What was put on your board might be things that you thought would made you happy. But it didn’t. I thought long and hard about it after reviewing my own board.
Then, it struck me like a bolt of lightning. Because I was focusing on the wrong thing. I asked myself what kind of board would I like to make moving forward, that will not repeat this sense of dissatisfaction again.
I realized I was moving in the opposite direction. Instead of being so occupied with what I want to achieve, what I want to have,
I should be focused on WHO I want TO BE.
to create vision boards that
satisfy my last breath with a smile.
I suspect that I do not really care what I own or achieved in that moment, in my last breath. I WILL care about how I have lived my life and used up all my energy to be the kind of person I want to be.
What better insurance for that
than your vision board?
Provided you are committed to your Vision Board of course.
That was a real game-changer for me. So now the heart of my vision board comes from who I want to be, and it branches out to what that means in terms of the activities I will engage in, the projects that I will take up, the possessions I want to work towards, the commitments I will make, etc.
All of which, will express that kind of ‘last-breath satisfaction’ for me.
2. Know Your Why
“He who has a why to live for
can bear almost any how.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
Another element that you will not find in other vision boards, is the why. We all know about the why, Simon Sinek got everyone into a frenzy with it.
And, rightly so.
If knowing your why is so crucial,
then why is your why
not on your vision board?
Vision Board Magic includes the all-important-why on your vision board. Again, this was added based on observing my own behavior. I noted that there were times when I felt a sense of dread looking at my vision board.
It reminded me of the amount of work I needed to put in to make things happen, and all the things I have not done yet. Why was I feeling dread?
Because I have forgotten about my why.
What is the simplest solution?
Include your Why in your Vision Board Magic! It’s your vision board so put it in any way that makes sense to you. Make sure that it is clearly visible.
The toe pads of geckos contain tiny hair-like structures called setae, which helps it to stick to surfaces so it does not fall.
The Why on your board is one of the several setae in Vision Board Magic, that helps your vision board sticks to your daily life.
In your stressful or tiring moments, looking at the why on your board will energize and refocus your energy and attention. Split-second re-calibration.
Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it”
― Gautama Buddha.
The Being-ness of a Vision Board Magic does exactly that. It helps you define your purpose, and to give your whole heart and soul to that purpose by translating it into the sub-branches in your vision board.
Thank you for reading.
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2. Using the 4 Elements to Actualize your goals and vision
Have a most fruitful heart-satisfying 2018 ahead! 🙂