Are You Depressed?

In the U.S alone, about 15 million people suffer from depression annually. Although majority are women,

almost two-thirds do not seek help.

  • Are you among the two-thirds?
  • Are you wondering if you are depressed?
  • How do you know if you are depressed?

Given the scary statistics on women, you can understand why I feel the need to do a post on depression and women.

WOMEN AND DEPRESSION

Women are twice as likely to develop clinical depression as men. Almost up to one in four women is likely to have at least one episode of major depression at some point in life.

Meaning that

between you and three of your close girlfriends, one of you is going to have a major depression episode at some point.

Depression is common, depression is real and no it doesn’t just happen to ‘other people.’

Depression can happen to anyone, including you and me.

So then, what exactly is depression?

WHAT IS DEPRESSION?

According to Webmd,

clinical depression is a serious and pervasive mood disorder.

It causes feelings of sadness, hopelessness, helplessness, and worthlessness.

Depression can be mild to moderate with symptoms of apathy, little appetite, difficulty sleeping, low self-esteem, and low-grade fatigue. Or it can be more severe.

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS?

In women, symptoms of depression include:

  • Persistent sadness, anxiety, or a sense of ’emptiness’
  • Little or no interest or pleasure in activities, including sex
  • Restlessness, irritability, or excessive crying
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, pessimism
  • Sleeping too much or too  little, middle of the night wakings
  • Loss of appetite &/ weight loss or overeating & weight gain
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, feeling ‘sluggish’
  • Contemplation of death or suicide, or suicide attempts
  • Trouble concentrating, remembering or making decisions
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain

WHY DO WOMEN GET DEPRESSION MORE OFTEN THAN MEN?

  1. BIOLOGICAL/PHYSICAL/HORMONAL

I. Women’s Hormonal Fluctuations

The fluctuations of hormones level throughout a woman’s life have been believed to be a major factor. Hormones changes are most evident during significant periods in a woman’s life.

  • Premenstrual stress can also cause depression, anxiety and mood swings one week before menstruation.
  • Pregnancy, infertility, miscarriage, unwanted pregnancy
  • Postpartum depression
  • Perimenopause and menopause

II. Health Challenges

  • Chronic illness
  • Injury
  • Disability
  • Dieting
  • Quitting vices/addictions (e.g. alcohol, drugs, smoking)
  • Medication side effects (E.g. birth control medication, hormone replacement therapy.)

2. PSYCHOLOGICAL

I. Feelings

Women are more likely to ruminate when they are depressed. We cry to relieve our emotional tension, have negative inner dialogues and confide in friends about our depression.

The thing is,

rumination reinforces depression
and can make it worse.

II. Environmental stressors

Stress from work, school or at home can affect women more than men. Studies have shown that women are more likely to develop depression from stress, as compared to men.

Also, the female physiological response
to stress is to produce
MORE stress hormones.

The female sex hormone progesterone does not turn off the stress hormone system the way it does in men.

III. Body Image Issues

Ah, this is the bomb for women. And often, it already starts in puberty. Not only does a young girl experiences the challenges and confusion that comes with puberty, she would have already been exposed to the implicit and explicit expectations of society about women, by  observing her environment and the female figures in her life. And of course,

the impossible perfect body.

3. SOCIAL

Social factors, lifestyle choices, relationships and coping skills can become potential breeding grounds for depression as well.

  • Marital or love relationships, balancing the demands of romance, home life and career.
  • Family duties, such as caring for the spouse, the young and the aging.
  • Work challenges or discrimination at work such as skipped for a promotion or even retrenchment.
  • Death and sickness of loved ones.

4. OTHER FACTORS

Factors that can increase the chance of depression in women.

  • Genetic
  • Interpersonal
  • Psychological or personality characteristics
  • Being a single parent
  • Family history of mood disorders
  • History of mood disorders in early reproductive years
  • Loss of a parent before age 10
  • Loss of social support system or the threat of such a loss
  • Ongoing psychological and social stress
  • Physical or sexual abuse

HOW TO COPE WITH DEPRESSION

As you can see, depression is common for women,

you are not alone.

While it is challenging to be enthusiastic about resolving your depression issue while in depression, you can start with baby steps.

Here are some suggestions on what you can do to slowly move yourself out of the black vacuum that you are feeling.

I will keep this short because I would like to do a separate post on techniques to cope with depression.

  • Find a friend who can be an open and non-judgemental listener for you.

    If there is none, there are always counselors and therapists near you whom you can seek help from.

  • Physical exercise

    Be it a slow walk by the park or a vigorous kick boxing session, exercise releases endorphins, that can make you feel good and better about yourself.

  • Quality sleep

    Have at least 6-8 of sleep. Do not shortchange yourself on quality sleep that can help you to rest, repair and rejuvenate.

  • Meditate

    Make time for stillness to centered yourself back to your core again. Breath works is great too. My favorite tool is Insight App.

  • Gratitude

    Just for two minutes every night, list down the blessings that still abounds in your life. Breath and expand the sensation of gratitude in your heart.

  • Hydration

    About 60% of the human body is water. Make sure you drink enough water everyday to stay hydrated and to minimize disruptions in the bodily functions/processes. Avoid or minimize alcohol or dehydrating fluids like coffee.

  • Spiritual guidance

    Whatever is your spiritual or religious beliefs, seek constant inspiration and draw strength from it. There must be a reason why this is your spirituality, anchor on it.

  • Sunlight is your friend

    Get outdoors, breath in the fresh air, and soak in the sunlight. It will do wonders for your body, mind and spirit.

    Better still, book a session of Open-Hearted Walk with me and you get counseling plus a refreshing outdoor walk, all in one! 🙂

  • Socialize

    Be involved in social activities, meet up with your friends.  Join a new social club or interest group!

  • Get therapy

    Explore psycho-therapy, energy healing. For example, Aroma Freedom Technique is known to be a quick process that helps you process past negative feelings and memories, so that you can let go of the past and move your emotional energy into a positive direction.

  • Challenge your thoughts

    When that negative voice starts again, challenge it. Don’t just accept it. Ask for evidence for what it’s saying and think of times/evidence when it was not the case.

  • Keep going!

    Even when you don’t feel like it, still get up and moving. Continue to meet friends, walk the dog, show up for work. Keep going!

So, are you depressed?

What jumped out at you from this post?

Use this depression quiz to determine where you are.

It is important to seek support and even professional help if you are depressed. First thing first, awareness. Use the depression quiz to gain awareness.

REFERENCES:

  • https://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-women#1
  • https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/depression-in-women.htm
  • https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression-in-women/index.shtml
  • https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/4-fast-mood-boosters-

Be kind to yourself today dear one.

Grab your depression quiz here.

*** If you would like to book for a coaching / counseling / Aroma Freedom Technique session with me, here is the link.

Namaste.

Story SMASHer,

Joy

~ Nurturing Resilience, Vitality and Self-love in Women ~

 

Story SMASHer Coaching Program

This coaching program fills me with so much excitement and joy, because it very much also signifies my own personal growth and healing process.

Bringing to you what has worked powerfully for me,

with the intention that it will do the same or more for you.

We all have stories in our head.

Stories about ourselves, the people around us and the world we live in. Using stories to make meaning, and to make sense of our lives is a very instinctive part of the human psyche.

In fact, that is how cultures have been created and preserved through the years. Myths, legends and even rumors, are stories that we make, stories that we share, that make US go round. It’s like casting magical spells.

The question is,

Are you concocting the right spell
for a joyful you?

Come to think of it, was it so long ago when our ancestors and even until today, the primitive societies or aboriginal cultures still continue sharing stories around the fire.

So, what stories do you have about yourself?

What stories have you been living on a daily basis as if they are real?

It is called the self-fulfilling prophecy. 🙂

  • What have your stories manifested in your life?

  • Are they stories of redemption? Or are they stories of contamination?

  • Do the stories you weave nurture and nourish you?

  • Do you feel joy and peace from the world you have built through your stories?

  • What stories from the past that has helped you ‘survive’ then, do you still carry on with you?

  • What stories from the past that was created by a hurt and lonely child do you still act out, because you do not know how else to respond?

Ever hear a scary story or watch a horror movie that kept you up through the night?

Ever heard an inspiring story and felt motivated to act on an overdue dream?

Then you would know that

the power of stories cannot be underestimated.

What more the stories you are telling YOURSELF?

Stories, like energy and ideas, are so intangible and yet so captivating. Once it hooks your attention, there is no turning back. You become fascinated and engrossed.

And yet, others might have no idea how that story or that idea is influencing you.

It’s potent invisible power.

  • What potent invisible power is steering the wheel of your life?

  • Do you have the awareness to discern?

  • Do you have the courage to find out?

  • How willing are you, to do the work, to claim back joy and peace in your life?

These stories that you are telling yourself defines so many aspects of you; how you behave, what you say, how you feel, how you motivate yourself, and even how you self-sabotage.

Whether you are conscious of it or not, you are living out these stories anyway. They are always there, determining your every move.

  • Are you living a life on autopilot, dictated by these invisible stories?

  • Are you living a life of awareness, conscious of the stories you have about yourself and the world, mindful to live out self-nurturing stories?

  • What is the central story you have about yourself?

Do you even know?

MY STORY

I spent thirty years living a story of
‘I am unworthy and unlovable.’

This was a story weaved by a child, who felt abandoned and unworthy. I continued into adulthood, living from that disempowering space.

I was driven to collecting as many certifications as I could. I was very competitive, and highly judgemental of myself, and the people around me.

Everything that I did or thought was based on the anxiety of having to prove my ‘worthiness’ to myself, and to prove that I am ‘lovable’ to the world.

I was an educated, attractive and deeply depressed young woman.

Deep down, I still felt
unworthy and unlovable.

Sounds familiar?

It took enough pain for me to decide to do ‘radical therapy’ on myself, and to commit to eliminating this story, and to anchor in a more self-nurturing story of

I am an authentic, intuitive,

powerful and playful Shakti.

That journey was ironically triggered by my desire to be an empowerment coach for women. In the preparation process, it occurred to me that

I was the first woman

I needed to help heal and coach.

That began a series of events, therapies, rituals, Warrior Goddess training, SheDance training, Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) training, and many other inspired actions.

It was hard and heart work,

but it began my healing journey, my long pilgrimage back to myself.

Warrior Goddess Training with Heather Ash Amara in Sedona, USA.

It also blossomed into a beautiful autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti.

So here,

I invite you to take my hand
and do the same
for yourself.

Get connected with your heart, and start examining the stories that you are carrying with you. I am here with you, every step of the way, and I will be your cheerleader!

Story SMASH!er was lovingly crafted, based on my own experience, for this very intention, to start you on your way back home to yourself, through self-nurturing stories. 🙂

If you are willing to commit
and to do the work,
read on.

Book your free discovery call here.

Let’s begin.

This is what I will do with you. 🙂

MAIN MODALITIES

The main modalities that is used in the program are

  • Narrative Therapy,

  • Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT),

  • Aromatic Freedom Technique (AFT),

  • Mindfulness practice,

  • Life coaching techniques

  • Fun, laughter and humor! 😉

SUPPORTING RESOURCES

Other supporting tools that we will also be using (this is not an exhaustive list) includes teachings from

  • Warrior Goddess Training (Heather Ash Amara)

  • Choice Theory Reality Therapy (William Glasser)

  • The Work (Byron Katie)

  • Nonviolence Communication (Marshall Rosenberg)

  • Neuro Linguistic Programming

  • SheDance (Areeradh K Tri-Siddha)

  • DiSC Psychometric Profiling

DURATION

  • The program is a 6 MONTHS commitment to give us enough time to do a thorough SMASH and TRASH! ‘house cleaning’ before moving on to anchor new self-nurturing stories.
  • There is also a 3 MONTHS option, but results might be less impactful due to the time constraint.

PHASES

Phase 1 – SMASH and TRASH!

  • Identifying weeds
  • Removing weeds

Phase 2 – SELF NURTURING

  • Choosing your seeds
  • Planting the seeds
  • Watering the seeds
  • Harvesting the love

WEEKLY COMMITMENT

The estimated time investment every week will be about 3 hours.

Every week you will have to attend/do –

  • 1 SMASH!ing Coaching Call

    to begin our inner work for the week, (80 mins)

  • 1 Alignment Call

    in mid week to check on your progress, and to share whatever you might want immediate support with, (15 mins)

  • 1 Reflection Email

    that captures the totality of your insights, reflections, thoughts and challenges for the week, as you work through the contents of your SMASH!ing/Alignment calls, Shaktified!, Shakti Dare and SMASH! Diary. (15 mins)

  • SMASH! Diary

    involving daily diary entries, where you are invited to write at least 5 sentences, that summarizes your reflections and insights for the day, and if you like, set an intention or goal for the following day. (20 mins p/wk)

BONUSES

  • Shaktified! (Worth US$400)

    a fun component of Story SMASH!er Program which extends the work that we are doing together, to support you in an all-encompassing holistic manner, as a Shakti (woman standing in her Divine Feminine power).
    This is where the support resources comes into the process, and the Shaktified! activity differs weekly such as Warrior Goddess lessons, Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT), TMRT, Shakti on Fire Coaching Series for Women, etc. (40 mins)

  • SHAKTI Dare

    is an activity, that is aimed to push you beyond your comfort zone. It is meant as a friendly dare for you, to have fun and more playful moments in your life.

    Story SMASH!er program can be intense as you do deep work to rewire your brain, re-authoring your stories and re-alignment with your heart.
    The goal of SHAKTI Dare is to help balance you energetically while you do your inner work. (10 mins)
    After all, who says inner work has to be oh so serious all the time? 😉

  • DiSC Profiling (Worth US$100)

    DiSC is a behavior assessment tool based on the DISC theory of psychologist, William Moulton Marston, which centers on four different behavioral traits: dominance, inducement, submission, and compliance.
    You will get your own free DiSC Profiling report to gain greater insights into your own motivations and behavior.

  • Credits Rebate (Worth up to US$300)

    Sometimes it will be tough going because we are doing hard and heart work here. In order to encourage you to stay the course, I will be offering $200 credit rebate (for the 3 months program), and $300 credit rebate (for the 6 months program).

    When you have succeed in finishing your coaching (YEAH!), you will be given credits, which you can use to offset whatever additional/other services I offer outside of your Story SMASH!er package. At no additional cost to you!

    On top of it, I will also allow you to use this rebate, as a gift for someone else. Let’s encourage healing and spread the love around. 🙂

BONUSES UP TO US$800!!!

YOU ARE UNIQUE

You are wonderfully unique and rightly so. The pace of the coaching and how we will move through the different phases, will be determined by your evolution in the process.

This program is for your growth and your nurturing, so YOU, will dictate the pace and our progress. 🙂

DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES?

Yes, as you would have realized by now, this is NOT a program for the half-hearted, or the indecisive.

It is meant for women who
~ has enough of the pain,
~ really want the change,
~
who is committed to doing the required inner work, to unleash their
Shakti (Divine Feminine power).

Book now for your free discovery call with me.

What do you have to lose?

Hmmm…

How about disempowering stories, negative memories and feelings and a disillusioned future? 🙂

And to encourage you, I will give you an e-copy of my book, where you can read more about my personal journey to self-healing and empowerment.

Come back home dear Shakti, it’s time.

Book your free discovery call here.

COLLABORATION INVITATION

  • Like what you see?
  • Keen to be my affiliate and support others?
  • Have ideas on how we can work together and create more value for the world?

I am all ears! 🙂

Let’s create more co-abundance!

Book our call over here and let’s chat!

Namaste,

Joy Leng

Story SMASH!er

 

 

 

 

MeToo with AFT, NO to sexual harassment

When I first saw #metoo on social media, it immediately triggered in my mind, an episode from my childhood that caused a lot of grief for me as an adolescent. I know that its effects still have a hold on me today.

I also know that many women would have responded to #metoo the same way, with painful flashbacks.

After all, how many women had not been sexually harassed in some big or small ways in their lives, at least once?

I meditated on how, as a life coach and a story SMASHer for women, would I want to respond to #metoo. The easiest way would be to share that episode that I have carried with me for so many years.

That thought jammed my heart into my throat. Woah, that is a big move Joy. Very few people know about that incident.

Admittedly it took a while but I decided yes, that is the most authentic way to approach this subject, from my personal experience. I am grateful to #metoo, because it also reminded me that it was time to heal myself of that emotional scar.

Since it is from a very long time ago, there is nothing I can do now to catch the culprit. It would be impossible to do so. But what I CAN do is heal myself from the wounds it has created.

So today, I have done an Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) session for myself, revolving around the topic of standing up for myself against sexual harassment.

Something that all women can do, heal ourselves, let go of the past hurts and set an intention to stand up for ourselves moving forward.

Coming back to this traumatic incident. It happened when I was about twelve years old. I was instructed by my parents to get dinner for everyone. So I promptly head off to the coffee-shop to order our takeaways.

Upon reaching my block, I pressed the lift button and waited. At this moment, a Chinese man in his late thirties appeared, strolling by with his bicycle.

I had been trained by my mother to keep a lookout for strangers, especially men. I was instructed to avoid taking lifts with men I don’t know. So yes you can imagine, I perked up, waiting to see if he is passing by or if he is also waiting for the lift.

To my relief, he walked right past me. But not before looking at me intently. My lift came and I hurried in, glad to be alone.

But it was not the case.

Just when the lift door was about to close, it started to move in the opposite direction. I was taken aback. Confusion and fear set in when I saw that it was the same man with the bicycle.

I was standing at the corner farthest from the lift door, and he parked his bicycle diagonally right in the middle of the lift, before he entered. I was completely trapped in a corner by his bicycle that took up the entire lift space.

I was too overwhelmed to react and he pressed the lift door closed. He looked intently at me. Again. I was drenched with a sense of dread. I felt

something very bad was about to happen.

He pressed and moved his hand across my chest, his eyes never once leaving mine. I froze. My hands were occupied with the takeaways, and I had no way to run. I felt a silent scream from within.

I wanted to die.

His floor arrived and he quickly exited. The lift door closed. My legs buckled and I collapsed onto the floor. I was a mess. My floor came but I did not exit. I sat inside the lift, completely blanked out.

At some point, I managed to pick myself up and went home. I feigned illness when I got home, and spend the whole night lying in my bed, tortured by the images from the lift and the molester.

I told no one.

For weeks, I was tormented by the episode. I felt dirty. I felt unworthy. I was ashamed. I was not close to my parents, and I was terrified of telling them.

I would be blamed for not following their instructions. I was the wrong one. I was the bad one. I must be a terrible person, that is why this is happening to me.

I was distraught and destroyed. Still, I did not tell a single soul.

I grew up carrying that unworthiness into my life, like a silent cancer.

Today, as a woman in her thirties, I am telling you, #metoo, this is my story.

What is yours?

Today I decided to put my brave on, and do an AFT session on myself revolving around sexual harassment. I must confess that I went into the session, with a lot of apprehension.

I am not looking forward to experiencing all that pain and horror again. Nevertheless, I went ahead.

This and other hurtful memories and feelings rose up. There is a common thread of unworthiness in the memories and feelings. I wept. I felt nauseous. The waves of pain needed no further encouragement.

I wanted to die.

I pressed on.

Resentment and shame turned into grief. Then my feelings took a turn. I started to feel a sense of determination. I was even feeling upbeat by the last AFT round, which surprised me.

By the time I was done with my power pose, I was invigorated. I felt cleansed and a sense of release.

What took me so long to do this?

  • What sexual harassment episode(s) is/are still haunting you?
  • What can you do about it?
  • How can you bring the culprit to justice?
  • Healing yourself is your own responsibility, what can you do to start the process?
  • What victim story have you been telling yourself &/ others?
  • What ‘poor me’ behaviour have you been acting out in the world?
  • Moving forward, how would you want to be if it ever happens again?

Do something, do anything.

Do something.

SPECIAL INCENTIVE

Book your AFT session and get a free e-copy of my autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti, a woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment. 🙂

P.S. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

 

An Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) session

Having been doing AFT sessions for others, I instinctively felt it was time to do an AFT for myself again.

AFT is a relatively new modality for many people so I understand there is probably a lot of curiosity and perhaps, even hesitation about it. Hence it might be insightful to give you a glimpse of the AFT session that I did today.

Given that it is a private AFT session for myself, I will not be revealing all my dark secrets (LOL!) but definitely enough for you to have a concrete and intimate peek at the process and what the client might be experiencing, in varying degrees and forms.

I began my AFT session with a positive affirmation made in the present tense. When I rated how possible it felt in the moment, it was a very low 2. 2/10.

The negative voice was telling me,”You are a joker. How is that possible?”

I felt a sense of heartache. I felt hurt. It was residing around my heart area. There was a rising sensation of nausea at the back of my throat.

Digging back into my past, I recalled an incident involving one of my earliest boyfriend. It was about fifteen years ago when I found out something about him, that totally broke my heart.

The memory took me off guard. Using Memory Release Blend from Young Living Essential Oils (YL), I rubbed the oils in my palms and inhaled in deeply. I felt an urge to ‘lean on’ the oils for some refuge.

I was certainly not expecting it but in a few minutes, quiet tears were welling up. Before I knew it, tears were streaking my face. A gentle wave of hurt sensation was coming up. I started to feel an ache in my stomach too. I allowed myself to cry and to feel it all.

As I continued to breath in the oils, gradually, the memory and the hurt feeling faded. A new thought came to my mind. ‘I can do this.’

Looking back at my affirmation, I rated it again. This time it was 3/10. Nothing spectacular, just one notch up. Pushing on. I felt the negative voice leering at me,”Haha. Ya right. you are a liar.”

Anger shot up in my heart. I can feel it in my chest area. And my face had tensed up. Traveling through time, to find a time where I felt the same anger in my heart, an angry episode from last night quickly ride up. It was an incident where I was accused and judged, without any chance for clarification.

Using the Belief Blend from Young Living (YL), I inhaled deeply, focusing on the feeling, the bodily sensation and the angry memory. It took a while but eventually, I felt the intensity of the anger reduced. Something in my mind said,”You do not need to let other people’s rage affect you.” Hmmm…

Revisiting my affirmation, I gave it a score again. 4/10. Clearly a process of baby steps. Moving forward. The negative voice retorted,”Give it up Joy. This is hopeless.”

I felt despair hearing those words. That feeling moved around my neck and throat area. Doing time travel again, I remember a time when I felt the same. It was a few years ago when I felt trapped in a relationship with truth stuck in my throat.

Going back to Memory Release Blend, I inhaled it all in. Tears came again. My heart ached. And then it all faded, the despair in my throat, the ache in my heart, like a faraway dream.

A new glimpse of hope came to my mind. It said “It’s (the incident) all over now.”

Glancing at my affirmation again, this time it felt like a 5/10. Another gentle step up the ladder. The negative voice said,”Alright. Be that way.” I sensed determination rising up to my heart.

I remembered feeling the same way, when I first started my pole dancing studio in 2005. Sheer determination. Belief Blend felt like the perfect partner in crime for this moment.

Inhaling the oils deeply increased my sense of determination. My mind perked up. “I have done this before. I can do it again. I will survive and thrive this.” Woohoo! I am feeling very good right now, that much is for sure!

Giving my affirmation a final rating, it is now a 6/10. It went from 2/10 – 3/10 – 4/10 – 5/10 and is now a 6/10. Wonderful!

As I meditated on my affirmation, I realized that it has morphed into another affirmation, – ‘I am resourceful, powerful, intuitive and abundant.’ I wrote down my new ally.

I have decided that the perfect power pose for this powerful new affirmation has got to be the yoga warrior pose.

I inhaled in Transformation Blend from YL and went into my power pose, verbalizing my affirmation with conviction. I did that twenty times.

I always enjoy feeling a firm shift, when I start saying it on the eleventh time onwards.

Sitting back down with a new vigor, I decided on the inspired action I will take moving forward. I shall not be too ambitious and I will just do this one task moving forward for the next five days and evaluate my progress.

That was the experience of my AFT process this afternoon. I hope you had found it insightful. Of course, it will vary from individual/affirmation to individual/affirmation.

I am feeling a little fragile, given the unexpected ride of emotions from unhappy incidents from the past. Wow, I didn’t know they still affected me.

This is what I love about AFT, it brings out negative thoughts, feelings and memories from the past, that has not yet been processed. They continue to affect you everyday, like a silent cancer.

Now that I have processed these memories, I feel uplifted too and eager to complete the task that I have set out to do.

  • Have you tried AFT yet?

  • WHAT NEGATIVE memories and feelings HAVE YOU carried with you, for years and years?

That is too exhausting dear one. Let it go. Try an AFT session.

What do you have to lose? LOTS!

All the negative vibrations!!! LOL ;p

Book an AFT session here.

Be kind to yourself today.

P.s. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
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*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

Shakti on Fire Free Coaching 4 Parts Series

Shakti on Fire Sparks 4 Parts Series

The objective of this free coaching series is to give you a taster of how Ignite! Shakti Training (IST) will be like. You have a choice

  • To go straight into IST or
  • To start off first with this free coaching and continue your journey with IST.

Either way, just get started! 🙂

Hopefully after your training, you will also feel inspired to be a part of the 1 million Shaktis, 3 million Sparks vision.

It simply means taking the Shakti on Fire Empowerment Pledge to do three empowerment projects of your choice for family, community and humanity. 🙂

HOW DOES IT WORK?

  1. This free coaching series consists of 4 action books related to the four sparks of Shakti on Fire training, which is
  • Authenticity
  • Intuition
  • Pl@y! and
  • Power

The accompanying podcast episodes guide you through the action books and the main concepts in it. And of course, if you want private coaching through the process, or to add other healing and therapeutic processes to it, such as Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT), that is available too.

Ultimately it is up to you how far, and how thorough you want to dive into your Shakti journey.

Grab your free coaching series here.

I will be here cheering you on,

every step of the way. 🙂

SO,

Have you listened to all the episodes and grab your action books yet?

This free coaching series is my gift of love to you.

This is my way of

honouring the Shakti

that you truly are.

Grab your free coaching series here.

Take my guiding hand and let’s get you started on your way back home, to the Divine Feminine within.

Grab your free coaching series here.

Honoured to be part of your soul-volution.

With all my blessings and love,

Namaste my dear Shakti.

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Contact –

Website – www.joyleng.com

Online Courses/Coaching Services | Be My Affiliate – joylight.teachable.com

Email: me (at) joyleng.com

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Twitter: @joyleng
Instagram: @shaktionfire | @joyleng

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Please rate and review the show on iTunes!

That will mean a lot to me.

2. Click on left corner, View in iTunes (below the image)
3. Click on Ratings and Review.
Thank you so much!

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Shattering Your Stories with Joy Leng on Wide Awakened Healing Podcast

Tarah Long is an amazing sweet soul who I am so glad to know. She emailed me about being interviewed on Shakti on Fire Podcast, which was an easy yes for me.

You can check out her interview episode here.

I found her to be so gentle and genuine, it was true delight to talk to her. Make sure you check out both our interviews! 🙂

Listen to my interview here.

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Excerpt from the podcast show notes –

  • What stories are you holding onto?

  • How have they defined you up until this moment?

  • Are you ready to see them for what they are?

In our conversation, we talk about a pivotal moment in her journey where she used the “empty chair technique” to have a long overdue conversation with her birth mom. This conversation changed her life.

We also discuss her passion for empowering women to let go of their own stories, following your intuition no matter what, how to turn your journal into a book, and much more.

If you’re ready to look a little deeper at what may be limiting you in your own life, join us over on iTunes or listen below! And if you enjoy the episode, please let us know and leave a review on iTunes!

Listen to my interview here.

*** Also don’t forget to grab my free downloadable Find Your Passion pdf gift. 🙂

P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Catch kick ass episodes at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

Joy
~ Igniting Kick Ass Lives ~

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AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
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*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

Shakti on Fire Podcast Ep 004 – The Four Pillars of Shakti on Fire Podcast

Check out the podcast episode here.

– Sharing the four pillars of Shakti on Fire Podcast so you know what to expect and how to look out for your favorite segments

– HEALING Segment

P2P, W2W #

Pain into Power, Wound into Wisdom

– EMPOWERMENT Segment

KICK ASS #

– SOF Sparks

SPARK #

– INTERVIEW Segment

SPOTLIGHT #

Check out the podcast episode here.

Check out the podcast episode here.

Shakti on Fire Podcast Ep 3 – Warrior Goddess Training with Heather Ash Amara

Podcast – http://www.blogtalkradio.com/shaktionfire

  • My experience doing Warrior Goddess Training with Heather Ash Amara
  • What does it mean to be the woman you were meant to be?
  • The ten lessons in Warrior Goddess Training
  • The power of sisterhood, having a community

Support me at Patreon! – https://www.patreon.com/shaktionfire

Website – www.joyleng.com

Shakti on Fire FB Group – https://www.meetup.com/ShaktionFire/

LinkedIn – https://sg.linkedin.com/in/joyleng

FB – www.facebook.com/joymycoach

My latest book – www.fromzerotoshakti.joyleng.com

Free Chapter Giveaway of my book – http://bit.ly/2o1q0hV

Online Courses/Coaching – www.joylight.teachable.com

Free 2 chapters of Warrior Goddess Training – http://www.hierophantpublishing.com/warrior-goddess-training/

Grab your free book chapter here at

www.fromzerotoshakti.joyleng.com

What’s Your Story Workshop based on Choice Theory and From Zero to Shakti

I cannot be more thrilled that my book was given a chance to have a smashing start. To be invited once again by Young Women Leadership Connection (YWLC) to do a talk for a women shelter is the most perfect beginning for my book.

One year ago, when I was invited to do a motivational talk for the same shelter, I was a brand new baby life coach. I was nervous about sharing my personal story and I did not know where to begin.

So I decided to share the three precious truths that I have learnt in my path to self-healing and empowerment. I had a powerpoint and a very able friend/trained counselor to back me up.

It was messy because of the various interpretations required due to language barrier. Otherwise,

it was a soulful success.

Everyone got something valuable out of our time together.

Fast forward one year later, same story. This time, backed up by Choice Theory, role plays preparation, another able assistant/trained Choice Theory practitioner and my book, From Zero to Shakti.

Wow, how things have changed.

Same story,

more powerful storytelling style.

We got off on a nice start, with everyone warming up at the self introduction segment. The atmosphere had a nose dive from the moment we showed the book video.

It was intentional.

This is not going to be a feel-good ra-ra talk. It was designed to be

a tough love, reality check workshop.

It was challenging, as we navigate through the emotional ups and downs of our audience.

But it worked. Sure, there were some tears, even mini breakdowns. But it was clear,

the message hit home.

All that was suppressed and hidden rose quickly to the surface.

To be healed and in time, addressed.

Based on the feedback we got and what was shared on the success board, there was no shadow of doubt, it was another impactful session. This year,

more potent than ever.

We left

with our hearts overflowing.

Proud of our work and most of all,

proud of the women who showed up and

showed their broken hearts to be healed.

Pure magic this morning.

FROM PARTICIPANTS IN THE WORKSHOP

From a thoughtful mother

From the youngest participant, a 15 years old who wrote,

‘Today I learnt to manage my emotions.’

FROM THE WOMEN FROM YOUNG WOMEN LEADERSHIP CONNECTION

I am grateful. For the work that I do. And I will do it more passionately from henceforth, for the priceless abundance I receive, every time I stepped into the arena. In the name of love.

  • Check out my book site here.
  • Check out Choice Talk, What’s Your Story? Workshop here.

~ Igniting Kick Ass Lives ~

Namaste,

Joy

 

From Zero to Shakti Foreword by Dr Mel Gill

http://bit.ly/buy-fromzerotoshakti

I am deeply honoured to have my foreword written by Dr Mel Gill, a well-known psychologist and the president of the American Association of Master Trainers.

He has been my role model in my growing up years and was a leading influence in my interest in human psychology and mental health.

His radio talk show ‘Uncommon Sense’ on 93.8FM was my constant companion. His own personal story that translated into a bestseller The Meta Secret is an inspiration.

Thank you Dr Mel. I cannot think of a better person to write my foreword for this book. 🙂

Namaste,

Joy

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FOREWORD

When I read Joy’s ‘From Zero to Shakti’, it put a

broad smile on my face.

This book is a

joyful read.

It brings to the fore many of the laws from The Meta Secret.

Having met Joy personally, I can only imagine her going through all the events she described in her story.

She

took control

of the limiting stories in her head, that had mentally and emotionally paralyzed her, for most of her young adult life.

And

with great audacity and verve,

she took a look at her own shame and guilt, she

took full responsibility

for it, and

initiated specific steps

to turn her life radically around.

A most remarkable example of the Law of Correspondence;

as within, so without.

She has demonstrated how

anything is possible,

especially when you choose to replace a problem-focused consciousness with a solution-focused consciousness.

Every step of the way,

her clarity and her determination shines through,

smashing through pain, regrets and hurts.

I am a deep advocate of selfless-giving, as you would have noticed with my life’s work. Here, we have

a woman of grit,

who had decided to rise up, in spite of her past, to heal and empower herself and others, through this book and more.

What moved me was when she confided that this book was not about her sharing her story. She knows her own truth. This book was to

show what’s possible for all women,

who are hurting and hiding from themselves, as she had done for so many years.

‘The soul of this book is to ignite in all women’s hearts,

the desire to take inspired action,

to heal and to empower themselves.’

The savior they were waiting for was always within.

However your life has been until this moment, all you have control of, is just the here and now.

If you can be here, fully conscious, fully aware, fully present with this book, then you can truly begin, what’s possibly,

the first kick-ass day of the rest of your life!

Ultimately it is

up to you to make the right choice.

Thank you Joy for providing clarity through that process!

 

Dr Mel Gill,

Bestselling Author of The Meta Secret

www.MetaSecret.com

Available at http://bit.ly/buy-fromzerotoshakti

Get your free chapter here