Shakti on Fire Podcast Ep 004 – The Four Pillars of Shakti on Fire Podcast

Check out the podcast episode here.

– Sharing the four pillars of Shakti on Fire Podcast so you know what to expect and how to look out for your favorite segments

– HEALING Segment

P2P, W2W #

Pain into Power, Wound into Wisdom

– EMPOWERMENT Segment

KICK ASS #

– SOF Sparks

SPARK #

– INTERVIEW Segment

SPOTLIGHT #

Check out the podcast episode here.

Check out the podcast episode here.

Shakti Baby – Coaching for Women

‘Empowering heart-centered women since 2005’

~ Igniting Shaktis on Fire ~

BRAVO!

Welcome my brave Shakti.

Shakti means goddess in Hindu and it symbolizes power.

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I am so thrilled that you are here, ready to spread your glorious wings and fly!

That means you are thinking of

  • Igniting your Shakti on Fire,

  • Activating your natural gifts as a woman and

  • Reclaiming the kick ass life you are destined for.

Hell yeah!

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“Joy helped me to become a more confident person.
She also equips me with the required skills
and support to achieve my desired outcomes.
She is genuinely concerned and interested in her clients
and definitely goes the extra mile to support them.”
– Trina Wong
(April 2016)

If you believe

  • You are more than just your mind, or your body
  • You can do more with the natural intuition you are born with as a woman
  • You can have more joy and PL@Y! in your life
  • You can manifest your true power by owning your authentic self

It’s playtime! 🙂

For SHAKTI BABY, you will get –

– 1 1.5hrs coaching session

– Free copy of my latest book, From Zero to Shakti (eBook)

– Free 7 Days Self Compassion Challenge (eCourse format)

GRAB YOUR PACKAGE HERE!

COACHING PACKAGES

Check out all the coaching packages here –

SHAKTI BABY

SHAKTI ABLAZE

KICK ASS SHAKTI

NO. OF SESSIONS 1 (1.5hrs) 12 (1.5hrs) 12 (1.5hours) AND
SPECIALS 1 Kick Ass Jumpstart Session (1.5hrs)
6 Weekly Check In Calls (20mins)
BONUSES
– FROM ZERO TO SHAKTI EBOOK (US$4.99)
– 7 DAYS SELF COMPASSION CHALLENGE (US$25)
– DiSC PROFILING/DEBRIEF (US$120)
– LET’S STEP! GOAL SETTING PROGRAM (US$99)
HALF PRICE DiSC PROFILING FOR YOU
HALF PRICE DiSC PROFILING FOR ANOTHER PERSON
FREE 20 MINS COACHING FOR ANOTHER PERSON
VALID FOR 9 MONTHS 9 MONTHS 9 MONTHS
INVESTMENT (US$) 140 1,440 1,745

Note –

  1. These sessions can be conducted via Skype, Facetime or face to face in Singapore.
  2. If you want to do a package (Shakti Ablaze / Kick Ass Shakti) after you finished your Shakti Baby session, you have a top up option for 7 days. 🙂
  3. You can purchase it as a gift for someone.
  4. All packages are valid for 9 months from the date of purchase.

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“My dearest Joy,
thank you for making me into a beautiful phoenix
when I most needed a change.
You are one of the most amazing woman I know
who would want to make another woman feel empowered and beautiful
regardless of age or size.

– Charlotte Lee (May 2013)

GRAB YOUR PACKAGE HERE!

OUR COACHING PROCESS

CLEAR —> CLARIFY –> CELEBRATE!

1. CLEAR

First, we clear the blockages trapped in your body, your mind, your spirit and in your energy force (‘qi’). No amount of planning serves any purpose if you do not first clear the obstacles in your way.

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2. CLARIFY

  • Next, we clarify and confirm your intentions.
  • We also examine what self limiting beliefs you might have that is hindering you or what ‘masks’ that you have been wearing to protect yourself.
  • Then we explore what options are available for you
  • To expend your focused effort
  • For the best possibility to reach your desired outcomes.

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3. CELEBRATE!

Having cleared your path, declared your intention and established the right course of action for your goals, it is time to celebrate and express your victorious path with your beautiful goddess body.

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“Joy has helped me to build my confidence.
She brings out the unexplored outer beauty in me
and urges me to seek my inner beauty within.”

– Christine Lim
(March 2012)

GRAB YOUR PACKAGE HERE!

EACH SESSION CONSISTS OF

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1. BREATH WORK/MEDITATION/INTENTION SETTING

Using breathwork to ground you into the present before we start our session together.

Using meditation to channel your focus into the intention for the coaching session.

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2. MIND MAP COACHING (WHOLE BRAIN CONVERSATION)


Using my training from my psychology degree and as an International Coach Federation coach,

We will have a fun, yet meaning session

Using colours and our conversation,

To create a masterpiece of our conversation

We will focus on –

  • The goal for our coaching time together ,
  • Challenge your thought processes and
  • Clarify your highest values
  • Establish what action needs to be taken
  • Propel you towards your desired outcomes.

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3. MOVEMENT GROUNDING

Being one of the first to start a pole dancing studio in Singapore in 2005, I have seen and experienced personally, the power of movement as a potent self-revitalizing tool.

While intellectually, you may have engaged in the conversation, and logically came to your conclusions, these precious insights are not grounded in your body .
Mentally you ‘get’ it, but your body don’t.

Ever ‘understood’ something and yet, did not feel it or lost motivation for it afterwards?

Hence, we need to involve your physical being, into the coaching conversation.

This ensures that the insights, the commitment and the inspired action are now in complete alignment with your entire being.

That’s when true personal Shakti happens.

We will use your natural movement

  • To celebrate the awakening of your Shakti-self and
  • To ensure that what you have explored during the coaching session is also acknowledged and affirmed by your body.
  • To cements your body*mind*spirit alignment to your goals.

P.s. NO dancing experienced required. Your body will surprise you how it comes alive. Stay receptive. 🙂

“I was immediately struck by Joy’s vibrant energy.
She is a compassionate person with a quick mind,
and I found her coaching to be skillful and intuitive.

If you ever need coaching, I would recommend her:
not only will she help sort you out,
she will be your cheerleader every step of the way!”

– Rimi Yoshida
(March 2016)

GRAB YOUR PACKAGE HERE!

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Shakti on Fire (SOF) Walk the Talk, An Open-Hearted Walk with Joy

http://joylight.teachable.com/p/walk-talk-sg

~ FOR WOMEN ~

Hello there,

My name is Joy.

I am an ICF accreditated life coach, with a BA in psycholgy, and trained in Choice Theory/Reality Therapy.

Recently, I wrote a book, From Zero to Shakti.

It is about my life story, of how depression and a sense of loneliness and unworthiness have occupied a big part of my life. And the multiple inauthentic relationships that I have allowed myself to go through.

So yes, I have been there.

In fact, that is why I underwent all the years of psychology and coaching training that I did.

So that I can help others who are going through similar situations.

Based on the Singapore Mental Health Study conducted in 2010 by Institute of Medical Health, as many as 1 in 17 people have suffered from Major Depressive Disorder at some time in their life.

We can stop this modern day phenomenon.

By taking early steps in taking care of our mental health. And those of our loved ones.

  • FEELING ALL COPED UP?
  • HAVE EMOTIONS YOU FIND HARD TO EXPRESS?
  • DON’T KNOW WHO YOU CAN TALK TO?
  • HAVE PLANS YOU DON’T KNOW WHERE TO BEGIN?

You are at the right place.

Are you

– In Singapore?

– Have issues you want to sort out?

– Need to clarify confusing feelings?

– Want to process a recent disturbing event?

– Looking for a trained and compassionate coach?

– Knows someone who is?

Book Your Open Hearted Walk with Me.

It is easy to get lost in our mental plane and be overwhelmed with the negative emotions that we are feeling.

By walking with me as you open up your heart,

– we engage your physical body to help keep you in the present moment.

Talking to a non-judgemental and trained individual,

– Who is wholly here to listen and to be with you,

– Will help you feel heard and

– To release the intense energy that is trapped within you.

This process gently guides you,

– To process and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings.

With that deeper self awareness,

– We can work towards planning your next thoughtful steps.

By taking this walk with me, it means

 

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

You be surprised about how you feel and the insights you can get.

Take an open hearted walk with me.

HOW?

– Once payment is confirmed, I will contact you to schedule

– One hour walk/coaching

– Bay area outside Marina Bay Sands and Fullerton Bay Hotel

– Includes short breath works and visualization

– Subject to changes depending on the weather and area conditions

– The walk is valid for 3 months from the date of purchase.

Book your open hearted walk with me here.

A GIFT OF LOVE

  • Worried about someone dear to you?
  • Not sure how to reach out?
  • Book an open-hearted walk for your loved one.

Let’s help someone smile again.

Book an open hearted walk for a loved one.


HAPPY BONUSES!!

To support you further on your path to healing, I will be giving you


– A free ecopy of my latest book, From Zero to Shakti (Worth US$4.99)


– 7 Days Self Compassion Challenge (E-course format) (Worth US$25)

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TOTAL BONUSES worth US$30

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Book Your Open Hearted Walk Today.

Namaste.

Blessings,

Joy

PLEASE NOTE THAT –

– This is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment and before undertaking a new health care regimen.

– I reserve the right to cancel or postpone the walk in my sole discretion.

Feeling suicidal?

Call Samaritans of Singapore at 1800-221 4444

What’s Your Story Workshop based on Choice Theory and From Zero to Shakti

I cannot be more thrilled that my book was given a chance to have a smashing start. To be invited once again by Young Women Leadership Connection (YWLC) to do a talk for a women shelter is the most perfect beginning for my book.

One year ago, when I was invited to do a motivational talk for the same shelter, I was a brand new baby life coach. I was nervous about sharing my personal story and I did not know where to begin.

So I decided to share the three precious truths that I have learnt in my path to self-healing and empowerment. I had a powerpoint and a very able friend/trained counselor to back me up.

It was messy because of the various interpretations required due to language barrier. Otherwise,

it was a soulful success.

Everyone got something valuable out of our time together.

Fast forward one year later, same story. This time, backed up by Choice Theory, role plays preparation, another able assistant/trained Choice Theory practitioner and my book, From Zero to Shakti.

Wow, how things have changed.

Same story,

more powerful storytelling style.

We got off on a nice start, with everyone warming up at the self introduction segment. The atmosphere had a nose dive from the moment we showed the book video.

It was intentional.

This is not going to be a feel-good ra-ra talk. It was designed to be

a tough love, reality check workshop.

It was challenging, as we navigate through the emotional ups and downs of our audience.

But it worked. Sure, there were some tears, even mini breakdowns. But it was clear,

the message hit home.

All that was suppressed and hidden rose quickly to the surface.

To be healed and in time, addressed.

Based on the feedback we got and what was shared on the success board, there was no shadow of doubt, it was another impactful session. This year,

more potent than ever.

We left

with our hearts overflowing.

Proud of our work and most of all,

proud of the women who showed up and

showed their broken hearts to be healed.

Pure magic this morning.

FROM PARTICIPANTS IN THE WORKSHOP

From a thoughtful mother

From the youngest participant, a 15 years old who wrote,

‘Today I learnt to manage my emotions.’

FROM THE WOMEN FROM YOUNG WOMEN LEADERSHIP CONNECTION

I am grateful. For the work that I do. And I will do it more passionately from henceforth, for the priceless abundance I receive, every time I stepped into the arena. In the name of love.

  • Check out my book site here.
  • Check out Choice Talk, What’s Your Story? Workshop here.

~ Igniting Kick Ass Lives ~

Namaste,

Joy

 

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Hello Kick Assters!

As you know, besides being an empowerment coach, an online course provider, a co-organizer of Shakti on Fire meetup group, I also conduct events in Asia, mostly Singapore, to guide people in their healing/empowerment journeys.

 

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LET’S SHARE

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A. WARRIOR GODDESS FOUNDATION SINGAPORE


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Your Kick Ass Coach,
Joy Leng
~ Igniting Kick Ass Lives ~

From Zero to Shakti now on Amazon Kindle

An inspiring story of a woman’s

path to self-healing and empowerment.

It depicts her determination to release the limiting stories that

held her hostage ever since she was a child.

You will be riveted by the whirlwinds of trials and tribulations she had to wrestled with, as she go half across the world on her own to

reclaim her own soul.

Experience her moments of terror as she desperately circumvent one crisis after another.

Indulge in her waves of joy as she unpeels layer after layer of

her shame, her pain and her inauthenticity.

Join her in her triumph

from Zero to Shakti

as she blaze her way through rebirth and redemption, in a

final consummation of a firewalk in the desert.

AVAILABLE IN THESE COUNTRIES

ASIN: B01N1NSBHX

Pssst! Stay tuned for paperback version! 🙂

Thanks!

P.S. ~ Grab a free chapter of my book here or buy my book here.

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

Joy

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*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

P.S. Why did I describe my life as a blank canvas? Check out my 10mins podcast interview at The Tao of Confidence. 

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‘Empowering heart-centered women since 2005’

“I met Joy and was immediately struck by her vibrant energy.

She is a compassionate person with a quick mind, and I found her coaching to be skillful and intuitive.

If you ever need coaching, I would recommend you see her: not only will she help sort you out, she will be your cheerleader every step of the way!”
– Rimi Yoshida

Check out coaching with Joy.
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10% of my net profit goes to support For Our Children (FOC).

 

Body Mind Spirit (BMS) Coaching

Ever been to coaching and left feeling half complete? While the mind finds the conversation logical and your agreed tasks to be perfectly reasonable, your instinct finds that something is still…..

missing.

I have felt that way for a while now with some of my clients. While the go-getter needs only a little probing to get into action,

how many of us have motivation

on a daily basis on steroid mode?

Not many I would imagine.

Enters Body * Mind * Spirit (BMS) Coaching.

I believe that we are not just minds attached to bodies walking around on the earth. We have spirit, something that is potent, indestructible, infinitely us and always will be us in the absence of our bodies and/or minds.

The coaching that inspires me is the coaching that connects.

The coaching that connects our spirits with our minds.

And our bodies too.

Hence BMS coaching includes powerful elements to ensure that the coaching conversation do not just stay on the logical plane. It allows the mind to speak too

through intuition guided by meditation and visualization.

Elements from nature are included to assist you

to gain potent clarity and focus.

After achieving illuminating insights with your coaching and confirmation from your spirit, movement is brought in to

ground your intentions and insights

into your physical body.

After an empowering BMS coaching, you can then move forth

with power and wisdom

to manifest your intentions

into physical reality.

It’s time to live in body – mind – spirit alignment.

Let your alchemy begin.

 WHAT A SESSION CONSISTS OF –

  • In a salt lamp environment with crystals and pure essential oil diffuser
  • Safe space cleansed with sage beforehand
  • Fruit infused water as refreshment
  • Singing bowl and Tibetan bell initiation
  • Intuition card reading
  • Whole brain coaching with ICF Certified coach using art therapy and mindmap.
  • Chakra meditation with crystals
  • Affirmation with a crystal of your choice
  • Breathwork with mantra
  • Grounding with movement and visualization

 INVESTMENT

  • 2 hours Special rate $250 TILL 12th Mar (Usual $300)
  • For booking please email to me(at)joyleng(dot)com
  • Prepayment required to confirm booking.

Namaste.

With all my Shakti love,

Joy

P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

Joy

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AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s search for rebirth and redemption.
Now available on Amazon Kindle!
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
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*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

P.S. Why did I describe my life as a blank canvas? Check out my 10mins podcast interview at The Tao of Confidence. 

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‘Empowering heart-centered women since 2005’

“I met Joy and was immediately struck by her vibrant energy.

She is a compassionate person with a quick mind, and I found her coaching to be skillful and intuitive.

If you ever need coaching, I would recommend you see her: not only will she help sort you out, she will be your cheerleader every step of the way!”
– Rimi Yoshida

Check out coaching with Joy.
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P.S. Have you downloaded your FREE

Ready to serve if you
  • Desire momentum and accountability to achieve your life goals.
  • Want to take advantage of DiSC personality profiling to understand your/your team’s strengths and to maximize productivity and harmony.
  • Are looking for an inspiring storyteller sharing truths from real life experience..

Book a FREE 20 minutes Skype session at me (at) joyleng.com for

  • Yourself or
  • For someone you feel who is in need of an empowerment coach.

10% of my net profit goes to support For Our Children (FOC).

Shaktis on Fire (SOF) Vision

Coming from a family of sisters and watching the females head the extended family for three generations, it feels like natural destiny to be an empowerment coach for women.

The women who have undergone my training programs are called Shaktis on Fire (SOF). Shakti means goddess in Hindu and for reasons I have yet to comprehend, it is a word that I am very drawn to.

My burning vision

is the

empowerment of one million

Shaktis-on-Fire,

who have pledged to do

three million good deeds,

by my forty-eight birthday, making this an ambitious ten years mission!

This is a vision that truly sets my heart on fire.

Shakti on Fire Sparks (AIPP)

The four SOF sparks, which illuminates the heart of SOF training are

  1. Authenticity,

  2. Intuition,

  3. Pl@y! and

  4. Power.

The various programs focuses on training SOFs on one or more of the sparks. SOF will have to complete a program for each of the sparks.

Shakti on Fire Fulfillment

The four steps process of SOF fulfillment, in order of sequence, is

  1. Training,

  2. Commitment,

  3. Accountability and

  4. Achievement

    1. TRAINING

SOFs starts off by working on their own healing and empowerment, through courses made available online or by attending live workshops.

2. COMMITMENT

SOFs who wants to go beyond their own empowerment, to pay it forward, will sign the Shaktis-on-Fire (SOF) Empowerment Pledge.
They have declared to do three projects of their choice, to empower these 3 areas
1 ~ Family,
2 ~ Community,
3 ~ Humanity

3. ACCOUNTABILITY

SOFs will have an accountability partner, a fellow SOF, to ensure the completion of their three projects. They will declare their own deadlines.

4. ACHIEVEMENT

SOFs will announce the completion of their pledges and celebrate it in the Shaktis-on-Fire community and beyond.

One million Shaktis-on-Fire, three millions good deeds.

Are you one of us?

Dear fellow SOFs, I am so very proud of all of you.
Let’s continue to claim our natural birthright as Shaktis on Fire, and use our powerful flame to set the world ablaze with love, healing, wisdom, strength, courage and empowerment.

Time to fan the flames.

Find out about my story of healing and redemption in my book on Amazon, From Zero to Shakti, a woman’s search for rebirth and redemption.

For a free chapter giveaway, click here.

Namaste.

With all my Shakti love,

Joy

~ Igniting Shakits-on-Fire ~

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AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s search for rebirth and redemption.
Now available on Amazon Kindle!
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
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*** How often do you say yes when you meant no? Or say no when you meant yes? Take the free Authentic U Quiz to find out.

P.S. Check out my 17mins podcast interview too at Love Is A Verb. 

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‘Empowering heart-centered women since 2005’

“I met Joy and was immediately struck by her vibrant energy.

She is a compassionate person with a quick mind, and I found her coaching to be skillful and intuitive.

If you ever need coaching, I would recommend you see her: not only will she help sort you out, she will be your cheerleader every step of the way!”
– Rimi Yoshida

Check out coaching with Joy.
~~~~~~~~


P.S. Have you downloaded your FREE

Ready to serve if you
  • Desire momentum and accountability to achieve your life goals.
  • Want to take advantage of DiSC personality profiling to understand your/your team’s strengths and to maximize productivity and harmony.
  • Are looking for an inspiring storyteller sharing truths from real life experience..

Book a FREE 20 minutes Skype session at me (at) joyleng.com for

  • Yourself or
  • For someone you feel who is in need of an empowerment coach.

10% of my net profit goes to support For Our Children (FOC).

Shakti on Fire Meetup Group

Greetings from Shakti on Fire!

We are Joy and Rimi.

Joy is an empowerment coach for women and a Warrior Goddess Facilitator certified and trained by Heather Ash Amara, the author of Warrior Goddess Training.

Rimi is a certified Emotion Code and Body Code practitioner, two energy healing therapies created by Dr. Bradley Nelson.

We are both Choice Theory practitioners and we have dedicated our lives to helping women to heal and empower themselves.

We are very excited to use all the skills and abilities we have accumulated through the years to guide you back to the warrior goddess that is innate in your DNA, a true Shakti (means Goddess in Hindu) -on-Fire!

If this speaks to you, come and be part of a women circle where we uphold and support one and other in a sacred, nonjudgmental space. Let’s come together to play, to heal, to empower and to celebrate lives as powerful Shaktis-on-Fire with a fierce community of soul sisters.

Join us on our meet up group –https://www.meetup.com/ShaktionFire/

Here’s to our soul elevation!
See you at the meetings.

P.s. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~

Joy and Rimi

Authentic U 24- Being Uncomfortable

Wow, how time flies. It’s the uncomfortable time of the year again. Lunar new year. A time where Chinese families reunite, catch up with one another and feast on delicious food.

It is also a time where you have to smile at the nosy aunty displaying her gold assets, from head to toe, and play diplomatic tai-chi with the other obnoxious aunty interrogating you, on your marital status. Ah, uncomfortable times.

I am never a fan of new year. I am not considered the black sheep of the family, for no notorious reason. As a child, I found out about my adoption all by myself, and endeavored since then, to be a sulky and uncooperative child. The adults in my family was exasperated by me.

I ran away from home to be a model when I was a teenager, and spent many years disconnected from my family. As I grew older, I became more appreciative of the fact that I actually have a family, and made effort to reconnect. At some point in my rescue mission, I lost heart, I freaked out and I ran away again.

It was more comfortable running away.

Now that I am in my late thirties, staring at my parents’ wrinkles, which I never remembered seeing, I wished that I could have been more comfortable, being uncomfortable.

I was never good at it. I will never eat alone in a public place.

I feel … exposed.

I never like networking events. It brings out the awkward nerdy little girl in me, who preferred the company of books to humans.

I never like venturing beyond my table of friends in a club, because I will look alone and unsophiscated. I am truly not good at being uncomfortable.

During lunar new year, the practice in my family is to visit my maternal grandmother on the second day of new year. At some point in the afternoon, the third generation (which is mine) will declared that we are leaving and scurried off together. That was always my favorite part of the day!

I never even quite know what to say to my own grandmother and I have trouble even looking at my aunties in the eye. There is just too much turbulous emotional history going on, at least in my head.

This year, when it was time to flee, I surprised myself. I decided to stay, the only one from the third generation, still sitting on the sofa. I assured you that my every instinct to take flight was screeching. My whole body was reacting badly to my decision. I was uncomfortable. I stood my ground.

I sat there and felt all of my dismay and discomfort.

My body cringed and my heart shrunk from fear. I said to myself, “Hmm… very uncomfortable isn’t it? But it’s going to be ok love. It is safe to be here. I will just sit here and I don’t have to initiate anything that I don’t want to. But I won’t leave. Not until I am comfortable with being uncomfortable.”

A radical inner revolution was raging within me.

The part that wanted to flee, was outraged by my betrayal and snarled angrily at the part that was proud of me, that I stayed. I felt all the rage and the tension between my inner divisions. I just sat there.

No doubt it took a while, then my body slowly melted into the sofa, truly back in the moment. I looked around. Nothing dramatic was going on.

The television was on, I heard the noises from mahjong table, my aunties were trying to figure out how to use watsapp and my mother was sitting on the floor, contentedly patting my dog. It wasn’t so bad now is it?

Amazingly enough, I was actually starting to enjoy it.

No way I hear you say.

But I did. Neither did I flinched, which I sometimes do, when my mother came to sit beside me.

I spoke to her and helped her to update her phone. I taught her about wifi and data plan, inconsequential and mundane conversation that actually brought me joy in that moment.

And I sensed her unspoken happiness, that I was still here, and helping her sort out the trivial that can bring some ease in her daily life. Who would have thought that being uncomfortable, could bring me such

peace, joy and connection.

I sat there for two hours, until I became satisfied, that I have won my inner revolution. Enough victory for a day. I left. This year, I walked out knowing that mother did not feel I was fleeing again. Because I was not.

I walked out as my heroine.

No one likes feeling uncomfortable. Because it feels threatening. Because it is biological. Never mind that there are logical and biological reasoning to back up why we should avoid feeling uncomfortable.

I dare you to go out there,

and be uncomfortable,

as often as you can.

Unless you stretch and pull and test the reality of your self-imposed limitations, you will always think that that is all there is to you, about you, of you. That’s a soul-threatening lie.

The more you are uncomfortable,

the more your comfortable space expands.

The more your comfortable space expands, the bigger are your dreams, your desires and your inner sense of who you truly are and the magic you are capable of conjuring.

You are a true magician and

magicians always push their boundaries,

doing what seems unthinkable.

Get uncomfortable and may your magic begin.

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With all my Shakti love.

Namaste,

Joy

Here’s to your soul elevation!

Thanks for reading.​

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Your Transformational Coach,

Joy Leng

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‘Empowering heart-centered women since 2005’

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