E-motion The Movie

If your subconscious mind
is 1000 times more powerful
than the conscious mind,
what controls it?

I thoroughly enjoyed watching E-motion. Apparently, there is a 2014 version. And this is a summary description on IMDb,

E-Motion is a factual documentary that explores how human emotions affect the physiology of the human body and how once negative emotions are replaced with positive emotions bona fide physical changes occur. A team of emotion experts from around the world share their wisdom and negative emotion clearing methods to show humanity the path to health and enlightenment.

The amazing accolades collected by the 2014 version is impressive.

  • Official Selection ILLUMINATE Film Festival 2014
  • Official Selection AWARENESS Cinema Festival 2014
  • Winner Golden Award WORLD FILM AWARDS 2014
  • Official Selection ASHEVILLE Film Festival 2014
  • Official Selection MONARCH Film Festival 2014

It has been inspiring and thought-provoking for me. It is such a joy to share the precious gems in it with you. I know you are busy so here you have it in a easy to read format. Do read it mindfully! 🙂

Featuring

HIGHLIGHTS

  • When we don’t work through our stuff, it manifests as diseases.
  • Every dis-ease that we experience are emotions, memories that are buried in our subconscious, that’s been triggered.
  • All organisms in nature are designed for short term stress, except for humans. We have the capacity to recall memories for a long time and stressing our system all over again when we do that.
  • The protective mechanism in our mind suppress these memories and feelings, not just in our minds, but also in our bodies. The evidence is muscular tension.
  • The human body is really nothing but energy zipping around in the speed of light.
  • Emotions means energy in motion. It’s our thoughts that create our emotions. And our emotions create our behavior.
  • When you hear people telling the same story over and over again, they are really suffering in their story.
  • We have been taught to resist the things that don’t feel good, instead of feeling the things that don’t feel good.
  • We look outside for answers. But the answers are inside because our feelings are inside of us.
  • 9% of our energy is used to suppress energy from our past.
  • Your biology is your biography.
  • Symptoms are the body crying out, telling us that there is something wrong there.
  • We are not made wrong. We are not broken. We are not missing anything.
  • If we allow the emotions to last for hours or days, it’s called the mood. If we keep allowing the same emotions to last for weeks or months, it’s called the temperament. If we keep at it for months or years, its called a personality trait.
  • So often people think that they have forgiven somebody, but they haven’t. Because their bodies are expressing the unforgiveness.
  • Being willing to be vulnerable and feeling again, is the first step to healing and finding our joy.
  • The placebo effect is proving that the mind can heal itself, despite of the sugar pill or the fake operation.
  • The subconscious mind acts as a broadcasting signal.
  • True transformations comes when we break free from the chains of the emotional addiction. The side effect of true transformation is called joy.
  • The emotional patterns we carry in our subconscious mind influence our relationship with money, and our relationship with each other.
  • The subconscious is a holographic archive of your existence, of every moment of your life.
  • The same emotions that is going on outside of you is also going on, inside of you. The blood is pumping these chemicals; of frustration, of jealousy, and of anxiety.
  • Our cells have these protein receptors site that binds these molecules of emotions. The amazing thing about these receptors, is that it is the same receptors that binds heroine. So guess what? We are addicted to our emotions.
  • We can take one energy of any type, and transform it into another energy.
  • The Ho’Oponopono Process:
    1 – I am sorry.
    2- Please forgive me.
    3 – Thank you.
    4- I love you.
  • If I wasn’t afraid, I would …
  • It is not fear that keeps us trapped. It is hiding from fear.
  • The biggest cloud to our perception is fear.
  • We move from the selfish state, which is driven by hormones and stress, to the selfless state, where we really want to contribute, and to make a difference.

It will be a nicer experience for you to watch the actual movie, so if you like, you can check out E-motion documentary here or the 2014 version in IMdb.

This movie has been heartening for me, given that I am also starting to place more emphasis in the healing aspect of my work as well.

As a newly certified Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) facilitator who can use the AFT process to help clients clear blocked feelings, emotions and memories from the past, you can imagine how in sync I felt with the movie.

Let’s all do the work. Allow yourself to feel your emotions again.

QUICK EXERCISE

For the next 7 days, for at least once a day, pause for a moment and ask yourself.

1. How do I feel right now? (One word, feeling word)

2. What do I need right now? What can I give to myself right now?

3. If you can, record/journal it.

4. Review your journal at the end of the week.
It will be interesting to see what new insights you get at the end of it.

5. Share your insights with me with you like! 🙂

6. Share this post with someone else and encourage them to do the exercise.

If you struggle to identify your feelings, trust me, it is very normal. And you can use the emotion wheel to help you. So hey, be patient and be kind to yourself in the process. 🙂

Let the healing begin.

FREE RESOURCES

As starters, here are some free resources.

Firstly, go to www.shaktionfire.com where there are many complimentary healing and empowering tools ready for your easy download. ALL episodes come with at least ONE free gift. 🙂

I especially recommend these episodes –

  1. Emotion Body Code with Rimi Yoshida
  2. Ayurveda with Dr Jyoti
  3. EFT Tapping with Brad Yates
  4. Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT)

Lots of good stuff there for you to check out.

OR

  • here is a quick link for you to download a
    free audio
    that walks you through the 12 Steps of Aroma Freedom Technique that you can do on yourself and
  • a Negative Thought Plots exercise based on Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). After all, as was mentioned in E-motion movie, it is our thoughts that causes our emotions.

Whatever it is, start small,
do something.

Download the free AFT audio here.

*** If you would like to book for a coaching / counseling / Aroma Freedom Technique session with me, here is the link.

Namaste.

Story SMASHer,

Joy

~ Nurturing Resilience, Vitality and Self-love in Women ~

What can Narrative Therapy do for me?

We have all heard of the rather controversial hypnotherapy, and perhaps even the very successful cognitive behavior therapy. Even arts and movement therapy.

But narrative therapy?

What could that be?

Therapy revolving around stories?

If that was your thought process, you are absolutely right on the mark! 🙂 Narrative Therapy was developed during the 1970s and 1980s, by Australian social worker Michael White and David Epston of New Zealand.

According to Alice Morgan’s influential and highly popular text, What is narrative therapy? An easy-to-read introduction, Narrative Therapy can be about one of the following:

  • Particular ways of understanding people’s identities.
  • Certain ways of understanding problems and their effects on people’s lives.
  • Particular ways of talking with people about their lives and problems they may be experiencing, or
  • Particular ways of understanding therapeutic relationships and the ethics or politics of therapy.

The goal of narrative therapy Narrative Therapy is to be a

respectful, non-blaming approach

to counselling and community work, which centres

people as the experts in their own lives.

PRINCIPLES AND ASSUMPTIONS

1. EXTERNALIZATION

“In narrative treatment, problems are considered to be outside forces
that enter people’s lives and rewrite the basic text of who they are. ”

– Paquin, 2009:92

The beauty of externalization is that

  • it creates space for people to be able to explore new and different perspective on the issue.
  • Without the ‘blame’ conversation, it helps to ease the conflict in interpersonal relationships, in families and in the communities.
  • it avoids the problem of clients personalizing the problem, creating serious disempowering self identities and self esteem.
  • it enables a real conversation ABOUT the problem, rather than from a crippling ‘I’ perspective.

2. MULTI-STORIED LIVES

Stories are how we relate to one another, and how we create meaning for our lives. It is rich with information of the wide and varied lived experiences of our lives.

Just like we can define our main life story revolving around the fact that we were given up by our parents and adopted and therefore, a worthless individual. We can also frame our dominant story as one who rose from rags to riches, and hence a determined and successful individual .

Micheal White and David Epston (1990) explored the idea of a multi-storied version of life. That enables flexibility in the interpretations of what a person might be and defied a singular definition of a person.

3. YOU ARE THE EXPERT OF YOUR LIFE

Your narrative therapist/coach will approach your sessions with the belief that

you are the expert of your life.

Not them.

You are already skillful and competent in resolving your issues.

You inherently possess the necessary values, beliefs, skills, knowledge and abilities to manage your challenges. Your narrative therapist/coach is a non-judgmental collaborator who helps you address the problem, and to co-author a more nurturing story.

Narrative Therapy guides a person to

  • Identify their values,
  • Identify the skills, knowledge and abilities (unique qualities) that they have displayed in the past or current when undergoing hardship
  • Investigate the history of the unique qualities
  • Challenge the current dominant discourse (problem story) that is destructive
  • Co-author a more nurturing discourse to replace the problem story.

There is so much power and liberation from re-writing a disempowering stories. You will see how I rewrote my story and my sense of identity in my autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti. The title of the book says it all. 🙂

I have also experienced the power of re-authoring using Narrative Therapy and many other modalities. But

the commitment to stay
the course is vital.

Re-authoring your story also means that first and foremost, we need to discover what is the dominant story that you have been living with. While it is very apparent for some people, it is not so for others.

It is so deeply ingrained in the unconscious mind, some people have absolutely no clue.

It doesn’t matter which category you belong to,

what matters is that you begin.

That is why I created the Story SMASH!er Coaching Program that using Narrative Therapy, Aroma Freedom Technique, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, mindfulness and a whole lot of other good stuff to give you an all-rounded support in this exciting re-authoring journey. It will radically transform your life.

If you are feeling something inside, that is prompting you to experiment with Narrative Therapy, then

grab the free
Life Story Plot exercise.

It will give you a first hand taste of how NT can powerfully help you to wear a more empowering lens in life, and to reset how you feel about yourself.

Remember,

you are the light.
Seek it from within.

Be well dear one, please take a look at the Story SMASH!er Program or even the 14 Days Aroma Freedom Technique Challenge, if you want to do inner work together with pure essentials oil.

And of course, I’m here for you for coaching/therapy as always.

Be kind to yourself.

Grab your free Life Story Plot exercise here.

*** If you would like to book for a coaching / counseling / Aroma Freedom Technique session with me, here is the link.

Namaste.

Story SMASHer,

Joy

~ Nurturing Resilience, Vitality and Self-love in Women ~

 

 

Are You Depressed?

In the U.S alone, about 15 million people suffer from depression annually. Although majority are women,

almost two-thirds do not seek help.

  • Are you among the two-thirds?
  • Are you wondering if you are depressed?
  • How do you know if you are depressed?

Given the scary statistics on women, you can understand why I feel the need to do a post on depression and women.

WOMEN AND DEPRESSION

Women are twice as likely to develop clinical depression as men. Almost up to one in four women is likely to have at least one episode of major depression at some point in life.

Meaning that

between you and three of your close girlfriends, one of you is going to have a major depression episode at some point.

Depression is common, depression is real and no it doesn’t just happen to ‘other people.’

Depression can happen to anyone, including you and me.

So then, what exactly is depression?

WHAT IS DEPRESSION?

According to Webmd,

clinical depression is a serious and pervasive mood disorder.

It causes feelings of sadness, hopelessness, helplessness, and worthlessness.

Depression can be mild to moderate with symptoms of apathy, little appetite, difficulty sleeping, low self-esteem, and low-grade fatigue. Or it can be more severe.

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS?

In women, symptoms of depression include:

  • Persistent sadness, anxiety, or a sense of ’emptiness’
  • Little or no interest or pleasure in activities, including sex
  • Restlessness, irritability, or excessive crying
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, pessimism
  • Sleeping too much or too  little, middle of the night wakings
  • Loss of appetite &/ weight loss or overeating & weight gain
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, feeling ‘sluggish’
  • Contemplation of death or suicide, or suicide attempts
  • Trouble concentrating, remembering or making decisions
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain

WHY DO WOMEN GET DEPRESSION MORE OFTEN THAN MEN?

  1. BIOLOGICAL/PHYSICAL/HORMONAL

I. Women’s Hormonal Fluctuations

The fluctuations of hormones level throughout a woman’s life have been believed to be a major factor. Hormones changes are most evident during significant periods in a woman’s life.

  • Premenstrual stress can also cause depression, anxiety and mood swings one week before menstruation.
  • Pregnancy, infertility, miscarriage, unwanted pregnancy
  • Postpartum depression
  • Perimenopause and menopause

II. Health Challenges

  • Chronic illness
  • Injury
  • Disability
  • Dieting
  • Quitting vices/addictions (e.g. alcohol, drugs, smoking)
  • Medication side effects (E.g. birth control medication, hormone replacement therapy.)

2. PSYCHOLOGICAL

I. Feelings

Women are more likely to ruminate when they are depressed. We cry to relieve our emotional tension, have negative inner dialogues and confide in friends about our depression.

The thing is,

rumination reinforces depression
and can make it worse.

II. Environmental stressors

Stress from work, school or at home can affect women more than men. Studies have shown that women are more likely to develop depression from stress, as compared to men.

Also, the female physiological response
to stress is to produce
MORE stress hormones.

The female sex hormone progesterone does not turn off the stress hormone system the way it does in men.

III. Body Image Issues

Ah, this is the bomb for women. And often, it already starts in puberty. Not only does a young girl experiences the challenges and confusion that comes with puberty, she would have already been exposed to the implicit and explicit expectations of society about women, by  observing her environment and the female figures in her life. And of course,

the impossible perfect body.

3. SOCIAL

Social factors, lifestyle choices, relationships and coping skills can become potential breeding grounds for depression as well.

  • Marital or love relationships, balancing the demands of romance, home life and career.
  • Family duties, such as caring for the spouse, the young and the aging.
  • Work challenges or discrimination at work such as skipped for a promotion or even retrenchment.
  • Death and sickness of loved ones.

4. OTHER FACTORS

Factors that can increase the chance of depression in women.

  • Genetic
  • Interpersonal
  • Psychological or personality characteristics
  • Being a single parent
  • Family history of mood disorders
  • History of mood disorders in early reproductive years
  • Loss of a parent before age 10
  • Loss of social support system or the threat of such a loss
  • Ongoing psychological and social stress
  • Physical or sexual abuse

HOW TO COPE WITH DEPRESSION

As you can see, depression is common for women,

you are not alone.

While it is challenging to be enthusiastic about resolving your depression issue while in depression, you can start with baby steps.

Here are some suggestions on what you can do to slowly move yourself out of the black vacuum that you are feeling.

I will keep this short because I would like to do a separate post on techniques to cope with depression.

  • Find a friend who can be an open and non-judgemental listener for you.

    If there is none, there are always counselors and therapists near you whom you can seek help from.

  • Physical exercise

    Be it a slow walk by the park or a vigorous kick boxing session, exercise releases endorphins, that can make you feel good and better about yourself.

  • Quality sleep

    Have at least 6-8 of sleep. Do not shortchange yourself on quality sleep that can help you to rest, repair and rejuvenate.

  • Meditate

    Make time for stillness to centered yourself back to your core again. Breath works is great too. My favorite tool is Insight App.

  • Gratitude

    Just for two minutes every night, list down the blessings that still abounds in your life. Breath and expand the sensation of gratitude in your heart.

  • Hydration

    About 60% of the human body is water. Make sure you drink enough water everyday to stay hydrated and to minimize disruptions in the bodily functions/processes. Avoid or minimize alcohol or dehydrating fluids like coffee.

  • Spiritual guidance

    Whatever is your spiritual or religious beliefs, seek constant inspiration and draw strength from it. There must be a reason why this is your spirituality, anchor on it.

  • Sunlight is your friend

    Get outdoors, breath in the fresh air, and soak in the sunlight. It will do wonders for your body, mind and spirit.

    Better still, book a session of Open-Hearted Walk with me and you get counseling plus a refreshing outdoor walk, all in one! 🙂

  • Socialize

    Be involved in social activities, meet up with your friends.  Join a new social club or interest group!

  • Get therapy

    Explore psycho-therapy, energy healing. For example, Aroma Freedom Technique is known to be a quick process that helps you process past negative feelings and memories, so that you can let go of the past and move your emotional energy into a positive direction.

  • Challenge your thoughts

    When that negative voice starts again, challenge it. Don’t just accept it. Ask for evidence for what it’s saying and think of times/evidence when it was not the case.

  • Keep going!

    Even when you don’t feel like it, still get up and moving. Continue to meet friends, walk the dog, show up for work. Keep going!

So, are you depressed?

What jumped out at you from this post?

Use this depression quiz to determine where you are.

It is important to seek support and even professional help if you are depressed. First thing first, awareness. Use the depression quiz to gain awareness.

REFERENCES:

  • https://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-women#1
  • https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/depression-in-women.htm
  • https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression-in-women/index.shtml
  • https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/4-fast-mood-boosters-

Be kind to yourself today dear one.

Grab your depression quiz here.

*** If you would like to book for a coaching / counseling / Aroma Freedom Technique session with me, here is the link.

Namaste.

Story SMASHer,

Joy

~ Nurturing Resilience, Vitality and Self-love in Women ~

 

14 Days Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) Challenge

Ever had an idea that just keeps following you around like a phantom ghost for weeks and months?

I sure have plenty of such experiences. So when I found Aroma Freedom Technique, I was so curious how it might help me to stop procrastinating and up my game.

So I decided to experiment. I did AFT sessions for myself for two weeks. It was a very illuminating experience for me. My goal went from a vague sentence to clearer and more specific intentions, as I did more AFT sessions on the same goal.

I also grew in confidence on the possibility of achieving my goal. In addition, I got a lot of clearing done, processing negative memories and feelings from the past.

As always, some of the memories surprised me. I didn’t even consciously remember those episodes of my life, much less realized that they were hindering me achieving my goals.

I felt lighter as a person and I could feel more of the energy flow in my body. I was in touch with my own physical body. It was an amazing experience.

I noticed that I was also less agitated, or affected by my surroundings, or by what others said, that might have ordinarily bothered me.

I was just singularly focused on achieving what I wanted. I was clear headed. I liked the way I was being. And then I thought, wow, I bet lots of people can do with such a helpful challenge themselves.

Comes the birth of the 14 days AFT Challenge. 🙂 As always, helping you with what I have experienced and benefited personally.

In this challenge,

I will not only be supporting you
as a certified AFT facilitator,

but also as your coach.

That will powerfully intensify the transformative process for you to achieved your desired outcome.

Whatever your goal is going to be, we are here to manifest it together, with the help of AFT.

How would life be like 14 days
after your challenge?

Only one way to find out!

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

WHAT DOES IT CONSIST OF?

  • 1 Discovery Call (30 mins)
    – Let’s discover and clarify what is your intention for the 14 days challenge.

  • 5 AFT Sessions (5 x 40 mins)
    We will have AFT sessions on every alternate days to help you to
    – remove the barriers surrounding your goals,
    – refine your goals and
    – eliminate rising challenges as they come to clear the path to fulfilling your intention.

  • 2 Accountability Calls (2 x 15 mins)
    One ACCOUNTABILITY CALL FOR EACH WEEK TO SUPPORT YOU
    – FOR ANYTHING THAT NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED IMMEDIATELY AND
    – TO HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE FOR THE INSPIRED ACTIONS THAT YOU HAVE COMMITTED FOR THE INTENTION.

  • 1 Kick Next Ass Session (40 mins)
    – ASSESSING THE OUTCOME OF YOUR CHALLENGE AND
    – PLANNING FOR THE NEXT INSPIRED COURSE OF ACTION.

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

Discovery call is free even if you do not wish to do the challenge, so what are you waiting for?

Say yes to goals fulfillment!

Book your discovery call here.

COLLABORATION INVITATION

  • Like what you see?
  • Keen to be my affiliate and support others?
  • Have ideas on how we can work together and create more value for the world?

I am all ears! 🙂

Let’s create more co-abundance!

Book our call over here and let’s chat!

Namaste,

Joy Leng

Story SMASH!er

 

 

 

 

Story SMASHer Coaching Program

This coaching program fills me with so much excitement and joy, because it very much also signifies my own personal growth and healing process.

Bringing to you what has worked powerfully for me,

with the intention that it will do the same or more for you.

We all have stories in our head.

Stories about ourselves, the people around us and the world we live in. Using stories to make meaning, and to make sense of our lives is a very instinctive part of the human psyche.

In fact, that is how cultures have been created and preserved through the years. Myths, legends and even rumors, are stories that we make, stories that we share, that make US go round. It’s like casting magical spells.

The question is,

Are you concocting the right spell
for a joyful you?

Come to think of it, was it so long ago when our ancestors and even until today, the primitive societies or aboriginal cultures still continue sharing stories around the fire.

So, what stories do you have about yourself?

What stories have you been living on a daily basis as if they are real?

It is called the self-fulfilling prophecy. 🙂

  • What have your stories manifested in your life?

  • Are they stories of redemption? Or are they stories of contamination?

  • Do the stories you weave nurture and nourish you?

  • Do you feel joy and peace from the world you have built through your stories?

  • What stories from the past that has helped you ‘survive’ then, do you still carry on with you?

  • What stories from the past that was created by a hurt and lonely child do you still act out, because you do not know how else to respond?

Ever hear a scary story or watch a horror movie that kept you up through the night?

Ever heard an inspiring story and felt motivated to act on an overdue dream?

Then you would know that

the power of stories cannot be underestimated.

What more the stories you are telling YOURSELF?

Stories, like energy and ideas, are so intangible and yet so captivating. Once it hooks your attention, there is no turning back. You become fascinated and engrossed.

And yet, others might have no idea how that story or that idea is influencing you.

It’s potent invisible power.

  • What potent invisible power is steering the wheel of your life?

  • Do you have the awareness to discern?

  • Do you have the courage to find out?

  • How willing are you, to do the work, to claim back joy and peace in your life?

These stories that you are telling yourself defines so many aspects of you; how you behave, what you say, how you feel, how you motivate yourself, and even how you self-sabotage.

Whether you are conscious of it or not, you are living out these stories anyway. They are always there, determining your every move.

  • Are you living a life on autopilot, dictated by these invisible stories?

  • Are you living a life of awareness, conscious of the stories you have about yourself and the world, mindful to live out self-nurturing stories?

  • What is the central story you have about yourself?

Do you even know?

MY STORY

I spent thirty years living a story of
‘I am unworthy and unlovable.’

This was a story weaved by a child, who felt abandoned and unworthy. I continued into adulthood, living from that disempowering space.

I was driven to collecting as many certifications as I could. I was very competitive, and highly judgemental of myself, and the people around me.

Everything that I did or thought was based on the anxiety of having to prove my ‘worthiness’ to myself, and to prove that I am ‘lovable’ to the world.

I was an educated, attractive and deeply depressed young woman.

Deep down, I still felt
unworthy and unlovable.

Sounds familiar?

It took enough pain for me to decide to do ‘radical therapy’ on myself, and to commit to eliminating this story, and to anchor in a more self-nurturing story of

I am an authentic, intuitive,

powerful and playful Shakti.

That journey was ironically triggered by my desire to be an empowerment coach for women. In the preparation process, it occurred to me that

I was the first woman

I needed to help heal and coach.

That began a series of events, therapies, rituals, Warrior Goddess training, SheDance training, Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) training, and many other inspired actions.

It was hard and heart work,

but it began my healing journey, my long pilgrimage back to myself.

Warrior Goddess Training with Heather Ash Amara in Sedona, USA.

It also blossomed into a beautiful autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti.

So here,

I invite you to take my hand
and do the same
for yourself.

Get connected with your heart, and start examining the stories that you are carrying with you. I am here with you, every step of the way, and I will be your cheerleader!

Story SMASH!er was lovingly crafted, based on my own experience, for this very intention, to start you on your way back home to yourself, through self-nurturing stories. 🙂

If you are willing to commit
and to do the work,
read on.

Book your free discovery call here.

Let’s begin.

This is what I will do with you. 🙂

MAIN MODALITIES

The main modalities that is used in the program are

  • Narrative Therapy,

  • Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT),

  • Aromatic Freedom Technique (AFT),

  • Mindfulness practice,

  • Life coaching techniques

  • Fun, laughter and humor! 😉

SUPPORTING RESOURCES

Other supporting tools that we will also be using (this is not an exhaustive list) includes teachings from

  • Warrior Goddess Training (Heather Ash Amara)

  • Choice Theory Reality Therapy (William Glasser)

  • The Work (Byron Katie)

  • Nonviolence Communication (Marshall Rosenberg)

  • Neuro Linguistic Programming

  • SheDance (Areeradh K Tri-Siddha)

  • DiSC Psychometric Profiling

DURATION

  • The program is a 6 MONTHS commitment to give us enough time to do a thorough SMASH and TRASH! ‘house cleaning’ before moving on to anchor new self-nurturing stories.
  • There is also a 3 MONTHS option, but results might be less impactful due to the time constraint.

PHASES

Phase 1 – SMASH and TRASH!

  • Identifying weeds
  • Removing weeds

Phase 2 – SELF NURTURING

  • Choosing your seeds
  • Planting the seeds
  • Watering the seeds
  • Harvesting the love

WEEKLY COMMITMENT

The estimated time investment every week will be about 3 hours.

Every week you will have to attend/do –

  • 1 SMASH!ing Coaching Call

    to begin our inner work for the week, (80 mins)

  • 1 Alignment Call

    in mid week to check on your progress, and to share whatever you might want immediate support with, (15 mins)

  • 1 Reflection Email

    that captures the totality of your insights, reflections, thoughts and challenges for the week, as you work through the contents of your SMASH!ing/Alignment calls, Shaktified!, Shakti Dare and SMASH! Diary. (15 mins)

  • SMASH! Diary

    involving daily diary entries, where you are invited to write at least 5 sentences, that summarizes your reflections and insights for the day, and if you like, set an intention or goal for the following day. (20 mins p/wk)

BONUSES

  • Shaktified! (Worth US$400)

    a fun component of Story SMASH!er Program which extends the work that we are doing together, to support you in an all-encompassing holistic manner, as a Shakti (woman standing in her Divine Feminine power).
    This is where the support resources comes into the process, and the Shaktified! activity differs weekly such as Warrior Goddess lessons, Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT), TMRT, Shakti on Fire Coaching Series for Women, etc. (40 mins)

  • SHAKTI Dare

    is an activity, that is aimed to push you beyond your comfort zone. It is meant as a friendly dare for you, to have fun and more playful moments in your life.

    Story SMASH!er program can be intense as you do deep work to rewire your brain, re-author your stories and re-align with your heart.
    The goal of SHAKTI Dare is to help balance you energetically while you do your inner work. (10 mins)
    After all, who says inner work has to be oh so serious all the time? 😉

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  • Credits Rebate (Worth up to US$300)

    Sometimes it will be tough going because we are doing hard and heart work here. In order to encourage you to stay the course, I will be offering $200 credit rebate (for the 3 months program), and $300 credit rebate (for the 6 months program).

    When you have succeed in finishing your coaching (YEAH!), you will be given credits, which you can use to offset whatever additional/other services I offer outside of your Story SMASH!er package. At no additional cost to you!

    On top of it, I will also allow you to use this rebate, as a gift for someone else. Let’s encourage healing and spread the love around. 🙂

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YOU ARE UNIQUE

You are wonderfully unique and rightly so. The pace of the coaching and how we will move through the different phases, will be determined by your evolution in the process.

This program is for your growth and your nurturing, so YOU, will dictate the pace and our progress. 🙂

DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES?

Yes, as you would have realized by now, this is NOT a program for the half-hearted, or the indecisive.

It is meant for women who
~ has enough of the pain,
~ really want the change,
~
who is committed to doing the required inner work, to unleash their
Shakti (Divine Feminine power).

Book now for your free discovery call with me.

What do you have to lose?

Hmmm…

How about disempowering stories, negative memories and feelings and a disillusioned future? 🙂

And to encourage you, I will give you an e-copy of my book, where you can read more about my personal journey to self-healing and empowerment and how I re-authored my stories.

Come back home dear Shakti, it’s time.

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Namaste,

Joy Leng

Story SMASH!er

 

 

 

 

MeToo with AFT, NO to sexual harassment

When I first saw #metoo on social media, it immediately triggered in my mind, an episode from my childhood that caused a lot of grief for me as an adolescent. I know that its effects still have a hold on me today.

I also know that many women would have responded to #metoo the same way, with painful flashbacks.

After all, how many women had not been sexually harassed in some big or small ways in their lives, at least once?

I meditated on how, as a life coach and a story SMASHer for women, would I want to respond to #metoo. The easiest way would be to share that episode that I have carried with me for so many years.

That thought jammed my heart into my throat. Woah, that is a big move Joy. Very few people know about that incident.

Admittedly it took a while but I decided yes, that is the most authentic way to approach this subject, from my personal experience. I am grateful to #metoo, because it also reminded me that it was time to heal myself of that emotional scar.

Since it is from a very long time ago, there is nothing I can do now to catch the culprit. It would be impossible to do so. But what I CAN do is heal myself from the wounds it has created.

So today, I have done an Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) session for myself, revolving around the topic of standing up for myself against sexual harassment.

Something that all women can do, heal ourselves, let go of the past hurts and set an intention to stand up for ourselves moving forward.

Coming back to this traumatic incident. It happened when I was about twelve years old. I was instructed by my parents to get dinner for everyone. So I promptly head off to the coffee-shop to order our takeaways.

Upon reaching my block, I pressed the lift button and waited. At this moment, a Chinese man in his late thirties appeared, strolling by with his bicycle.

I had been trained by my mother to keep a lookout for strangers, especially men. I was instructed to avoid taking lifts with men I don’t know. So yes you can imagine, I perked up, waiting to see if he is passing by or if he is also waiting for the lift.

To my relief, he walked right past me. But not before looking at me intently. My lift came and I hurried in, glad to be alone.

But it was not the case.

Just when the lift door was about to close, it started to move in the opposite direction. I was taken aback. Confusion and fear set in when I saw that it was the same man with the bicycle.

I was standing at the corner farthest from the lift door, and he parked his bicycle diagonally right in the middle of the lift, before he entered. I was completely trapped in a corner by his bicycle that took up the entire lift space.

I was too overwhelmed to react and he pressed the lift door closed. He looked intently at me. Again. I was drenched with a sense of dread. I felt

something very bad was about to happen.

He pressed and moved his hand across my chest, his eyes never once leaving mine. I froze. My hands were occupied with the takeaways, and I had no way to run. I felt a silent scream from within.

I wanted to die.

His floor arrived and he quickly exited. The lift door closed. My legs buckled and I collapsed onto the floor. I was a mess. My floor came but I did not exit. I sat inside the lift, completely blanked out.

At some point, I managed to pick myself up and went home. I feigned illness when I got home, and spend the whole night lying in my bed, tortured by the images from the lift and the molester.

I told no one.

For weeks, I was tormented by the episode. I felt dirty. I felt unworthy. I was ashamed. I was not close to my parents, and I was terrified of telling them.

I would be blamed for not following their instructions. I was the wrong one. I was the bad one. I must be a terrible person, that is why this is happening to me.

I was distraught and destroyed. Still, I did not tell a single soul.

I grew up carrying that unworthiness into my life, like a silent cancer.

Today, as a woman in her thirties, I am telling you, #metoo, this is my story.

What is yours?

Today I decided to put my brave on, and do an AFT session on myself revolving around sexual harassment. I must confess that I went into the session, with a lot of apprehension.

I am not looking forward to experiencing all that pain and horror again. Nevertheless, I went ahead.

This and other hurtful memories and feelings rose up. There is a common thread of unworthiness in the memories and feelings. I wept. I felt nauseous. The waves of pain needed no further encouragement.

I wanted to die.

I pressed on.

Resentment and shame turned into grief. Then my feelings took a turn. I started to feel a sense of determination. I was even feeling upbeat by the last AFT round, which surprised me.

By the time I was done with my power pose, I was invigorated. I felt cleansed and a sense of release.

What took me so long to do this?

  • What sexual harassment episode(s) is/are still haunting you?
  • What can you do about it?
  • How can you bring the culprit to justice?
  • Healing yourself is your own responsibility, what can you do to start the process?
  • What victim story have you been telling yourself &/ others?
  • What ‘poor me’ behaviour have you been acting out in the world?
  • Moving forward, how would you want to be if it ever happens again?

Do something, do anything.

Do something.

SPECIAL INCENTIVE

Book your AFT session and get a free e-copy of my autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti, a woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment. 🙂

P.S. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

 

An Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) session

Having been doing AFT sessions for others, I instinctively felt it was time to do an AFT for myself again.

AFT is a relatively new modality for many people so I understand there is probably a lot of curiosity and perhaps, even hesitation about it. Hence it might be insightful to give you a glimpse of the AFT session that I did today.

Given that it is a private AFT session for myself, I will not be revealing all my dark secrets (LOL!) but definitely enough for you to have a concrete and intimate peek at the process and what the client might be experiencing, in varying degrees and forms.

I began my AFT session with a positive affirmation made in the present tense. When I rated how possible it felt in the moment, it was a very low 2. 2/10.

The negative voice was telling me,”You are a joker. How is that possible?”

I felt a sense of heartache. I felt hurt. It was residing around my heart area. There was a rising sensation of nausea at the back of my throat.

Digging back into my past, I recalled an incident involving one of my earliest boyfriend. It was about fifteen years ago when I found out something about him, that totally broke my heart.

The memory took me off guard. Using Memory Release Blend from Young Living Essential Oils (YL), I rubbed the oils in my palms and inhaled in deeply. I felt an urge to ‘lean on’ the oils for some refuge.

I was certainly not expecting it but in a few minutes, quiet tears were welling up. Before I knew it, tears were streaking my face. A gentle wave of hurt sensation was coming up. I started to feel an ache in my stomach too. I allowed myself to cry and to feel it all.

As I continued to breath in the oils, gradually, the memory and the hurt feeling faded. A new thought came to my mind. ‘I can do this.’

Looking back at my affirmation, I rated it again. This time it was 3/10. Nothing spectacular, just one notch up. Pushing on. I felt the negative voice leering at me,”Haha. Ya right. you are a liar.”

Anger shot up in my heart. I can feel it in my chest area. And my face had tensed up. Traveling through time, to find a time where I felt the same anger in my heart, an angry episode from last night quickly ride up. It was an incident where I was accused and judged, without any chance for clarification.

Using the Belief Blend from Young Living (YL), I inhaled deeply, focusing on the feeling, the bodily sensation and the angry memory. It took a while but eventually, I felt the intensity of the anger reduced. Something in my mind said,”You do not need to let other people’s rage affect you.” Hmmm…

Revisiting my affirmation, I gave it a score again. 4/10. Clearly a process of baby steps. Moving forward. The negative voice retorted,”Give it up Joy. This is hopeless.”

I felt despair hearing those words. That feeling moved around my neck and throat area. Doing time travel again, I remember a time when I felt the same. It was a few years ago when I felt trapped in a relationship with truth stuck in my throat.

Going back to Memory Release Blend, I inhaled it all in. Tears came again. My heart ached. And then it all faded, the despair in my throat, the ache in my heart, like a faraway dream.

A new glimpse of hope came to my mind. It said “It’s (the incident) all over now.”

Glancing at my affirmation again, this time it felt like a 5/10. Another gentle step up the ladder. The negative voice said,”Alright. Be that way.” I sensed determination rising up to my heart.

I remembered feeling the same way, when I first started my pole dancing studio in 2005. Sheer determination. Belief Blend felt like the perfect partner in crime for this moment.

Inhaling the oils deeply increased my sense of determination. My mind perked up. “I have done this before. I can do it again. I will survive and thrive this.” Woohoo! I am feeling very good right now, that much is for sure!

Giving my affirmation a final rating, it is now a 6/10. It went from 2/10 – 3/10 – 4/10 – 5/10 and is now a 6/10. Wonderful!

As I meditated on my affirmation, I realized that it has morphed into another affirmation, – ‘I am resourceful, powerful, intuitive and abundant.’ I wrote down my new ally.

I have decided that the perfect power pose for this powerful new affirmation has got to be the yoga warrior pose.

I inhaled in Transformation Blend from YL and went into my power pose, verbalizing my affirmation with conviction. I did that twenty times.

I always enjoy feeling a firm shift, when I start saying it on the eleventh time onwards.

Sitting back down with a new vigor, I decided on the inspired action I will take moving forward. I shall not be too ambitious and I will just do this one task moving forward for the next five days and evaluate my progress.

That was the experience of my AFT process this afternoon. I hope you had found it insightful. Of course, it will vary from individual/affirmation to individual/affirmation.

I am feeling a little fragile, given the unexpected ride of emotions from unhappy incidents from the past. Wow, I didn’t know they still affected me.

This is what I love about AFT, it brings out negative thoughts, feelings and memories from the past, that has not yet been processed. They continue to affect you everyday, like a silent cancer.

Now that I have processed these memories, I feel uplifted too and eager to complete the task that I have set out to do.

  • Have you tried AFT yet?

  • WHAT NEGATIVE memories and feelings HAVE YOU carried with you, for years and years?

That is too exhausting dear one. Let it go.

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

Try an AFT session.

What do you have to lose? LOTS!

All the negative vibrations!!! LOL ;p

Book an AFT session here.

Be kind to yourself today.

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

P.s. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT)

The Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) is a simple process designed to help you get from where you are to where you want to be.

  • Do you have dreams, hope and goals that you would like to achieve?

  • Do you sometimes feel stuck, confused, or hopeless about ever reaching your goals?

  • Have you ever encountered fears and resistance towards reaching for what you want and you did not understand why?

AFT can help you with all of the above.

The founder of AFT, Dr Benjamin Perkus is a psychotherapist in practice, trained in multiple psychotherapeutic approaches since 1995.

He has been using and teaching about essential oil since 2001. He is the author of the book ‘The Aroma Freedom Technique: Using Essential Oils to Transform Your Emotions and Realize Your Heart’s Desire’.

While the process will appear deceptively simple to you, it is firmly grounded in the practices of many schools of psychotherapy, such as

  • Jung,

  • Freud,

  • Cognitive Therapy,

  • Behaviorism,

  • Body-Centered Psychotherapy and

  • EMDR/EFT/NET.

AFT is also intergrated with

  • energy psychology and

  • aromatherapy.

The heart of AFT is to guide you to use

  • Awareness combined with

  • Essential oils and

  • Taking positive action.

The main premise for AFT is that the response to smell is powerful and automatic.

I will elaborate more on the mechanics behind AFT in another post.

There are 12 steps to the AFT process. Here I will explain briefly the first 10 steps.

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

FIRST 10 STEPS OF AFT

  1. Set your intention. Rate its likelihood (0-10).
  2. Listen to the negative voice that says why this cannot happen.
  3. Notice how you feel when you hear the negative voice.
  4. Notice where you feel it in your body.
  5. Drift back to your earlier time when you felt the same way.
  6. Focus on the snapshot while you smell the essential oil.
  7. See what happens to the image, thoughts, and feelings.
  8. Notice the new beliefs starting to emerge. Identify creative ideas related to your intention.
  9. State your original intention aloud. Rate its likelihood (0-10).
  10. Create an affirmation that expresses your new, positive belief.

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

If this is your first time doing AFT, you are strongly recommended to do it with a facilitator. Even for myself, I find it easier and more powerful to do my process with another facilitator.

Alternatively, you can read up on Dr Perkus’ book and follow the instructions in it.

The key here is to get started.

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

All feelings are messengers of love,

here to tell you something that you need to do to heal and empower yourself.

Receive the message, process your emotions so that you can set yourself free and clear the space to make way for more positive and empowering manifestations in your life.

All it takes is less than an hour

for you to release negative feelings, memories

that do not serve your highest good.

And the good news is, yes, it can be done face to face or via online platforms such as Skype/Zoom.

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

So book an AFT session today.

Let the beginnings of your Shakti life commence here.

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

SPECIAL INCENTIVE

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

Book your AFT session and get a FREE e-copy of my autobiography book, From Zero to Shakti, a woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment. 🙂

P.s. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

 

 

 

 

 

 

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!

 

Life Coaching with Aroma Freedom Technique(AFT)

The Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) is a simple process designed to help you get from where you are to where you want to be.

I found AFT accidentally when I signed up for an online wellness summit where Dr Perkus was interviewed. That was when I was first introduced to AFT. I was intrigued and skeptical at the same time.

I have always had a deep love for essential oils and I used them for myself, and my home on a daily basis. For a while now, I have been looking for a modality that can manage the blockages that are submerged in the client’s subconscious level that, as a life coach, is beyond my reach.

That desire came from my observation of several clients, who seemed to be unable to fulfill their commitment to follow up tasks, despite successful coaching sessions.

My instinct told me that there are some hidden barriers, that were also beyond their conscious awareness, that was hindering what would had otherwise been meaningful and sustainable progress.

I was reluctant to include energy modalities such as Reiki and EFT because it is not always accepted by the masses, and can sometimes be considered too intangible for clients to feel a sense of credibility and validity to their healing/empowerment process.

I attended a free webinar, where AFT was used to heighten intuition. I was blown away by my own experience. In a very short time, I felt a painful memory that had been my companion for a long time, fade away.

I even tried to ‘catch’ back the intensity and the pain of the memory that I was so familiar with, and was very surprised to find that, that was hard to do. That was when I felt a sense of excitement, that this could be the modality that I was looking for, to complement my life coaching work.

What I most appreciate about the process is how fast, how elegant and how non-intrusive it is. Unlike other modality such as psychotherapy where you need to have all the details in order to assist the clients, you can still facilitate an effective AFT session, no matter how much or how little was shared by the client.

That is just invaluable, especially to reach out to people who are not so prone to sharing too much, either out of fear or personality.

Having since my course, I have added AFT to my coaching work and I found it to be a beautiful match. Now the client not only can work through their goals and challenges with the conscious mind, they can at the same time, clear whatever barriers from the past that could hinder their active attempts in getting what they want.

Personal alchemy at its best!

There is also a sense of satisfaction, that I did the right thing to take the certification, since I took the course more out of impulse, instinct and excitement, rather than on deliberate contemplation and planning.

I am grateful to have encountered AFT in such an unexpected manner, even though I had been ‘waiting’ for it. I am looking forward to use this new modality to help women clear their blockages, that has been keeping them from feeling whole, and from celebrating all that it means to be a woman.

In the article ‘Whole brain coaching and the Merlin Effect Lessons from advancing neuroscience by Forbes 2006’, science writer Steven Johnson has proposed that the mind is an emergent property of the brain that results in a whole that is somehow greater than the sums of its parts.

Johnson suggests that human brains is designed to love and connect as much as they are constructed to fight and flee. He refers to the work of National Institute of Health researcher Paul McLean’s triune brain theory to help explain the complexity of how we think, feel and act.

McLean suggested that we actually have three brains in one, a primitive reptilian brain (brain stem and cerebellum), a mammalian brain (limbic system), and a human brain (neocortex).

This concept of a tri-part brain may better prepare as coaches for working with the sometimes perplexing and difficult-to-explain thoughts and actions of our clients as their different brain centers vie for control.

Now with AFT, I can address issues and challenges presented not just by the human brain, but also by the reptilian and the mammalian brain, bringing my coaching to a whole new level. I am truly excited about the developments.

Why be coached only on the 5% of your brain when you can strive towards whole brain coaching? After all, if you are paying for a coach, you might as well go all the way! 🙂

*** Grab a free mp3 that will guide you through the 12 steps of AFT process (courtesy of Shakti on Fire Podcast).

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

BOOK YOUR AFT SESSION HERE.

SPECIAL INCENTIVE

P.s. Do note that Young Living oils have been recommended by Dr Perkus for the AFT process.

P.P.S. ~ Get your free Step 1 of Let’s Step! Goal Setting Program and my latest kick ass updates here.​ ~
~ Free coaching series for women at Shakti on Fire Podcast! 🙂

Namaste.
With all my Shakti love,

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMAZON ALERT!

Check out my brand new book ‘From Zero to Shakti’
A woman’s path to self-healing and empowerment.
Now available on Amazon and here.
Review on Amazon –
‘The author is very brave, disclosing her personal challenges and the solutions she created. I admire her unselfish sharing, and her courage in undertaking her personal quest.
She traveled a long distance to a special place, and even braved a fire walk–something difficult to imagine. She tells her story in an absorbing way. This book is charming.’

– Shearon B (Australia)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

*** Take the first step to your GOALS here!